Hello, Friends. How was your week? Feeling good about October? I think we have a pretty low-key weekend ahead of us with sounds lovely. Mostly I wanted to get Ralph and Maude’s plane tickets confirmed for the holidays. It will feel good to be able to picture us all together again.

The one big thing this weekend is Ben Blair is headed to Chicago for a conference. He’ll head out on Sunday. How will I do without the best French speaker in the house here? We will find out!

But first, here are a few things I’ve wanted to share with you:

Heads up. It’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and several of the links are abuse/violence related.

-What really happens when you report a rape.

-A story about a lost dog reunited, housing/homelessness in San Francisco, and grace.

-Dammit. Reporters found most Catholic clergy ousted for credible claims of child sex abuse now have roles like high school teachers, counselors to at-risk kids, psychologists and foster parents.

Advice from Anna Wintour’s masterclass.

Would you ever give up your lawn? “Sheer inanity of devoting 40 million acres, nearly half as much land as we use for our biggest crops, to an inedible carpet…. Producing no seeds, nectar, or fruit, few creatures can use can use lawns as habitat. Biodiversity-wise it’s almost like concrete.”

What if your abusive husband is a cop?

-In the French house, I was thinking it might be fun to stock the kitchen with only French items — like Le Creuset. I’m betting I could find some good stuff at yard sales here.

-How is this story about Republican gerrymandering mastermind Thomas Hofeller, who worked with state republican parties across the country to racially gerrymander democrats out of power, not getting talked about more? So much corruption.

-Related, How to Get Away with Gerrymandering.

-Ohio State University stated in its annual crime report that Dr. Richard Strauss committed at least 1,429 sexual assaults and 47 rapes during his 20-year tenure.

-Is there a sport you wouldn’t let your children play?

-Sigh. First, the parents paid “consultants” to get their kids into college. Now, they’re paying “consultants” in an attempt to avoid jail time. (NYT)

-This is never not funny and I’m always so happy to see it show up each and every year (but definitely don’t read it if cussing stresses you out). It’s Decorative Gourd Season, Motherf**ers.

Here are some things I bookmarked for you on Twitter:

-A thread on repentance, forgiveness, and Botham Jean.

-A lost and found acorn.

-Bob Woodward tried to moderate a discussion on the #MeToo movement and the audience booed. I found the thread fascinating.

-A short thread I wrote about Domestic Violence.

-This account shares excerpts from letters note and it is delightful.

I hope you have a fantastic weekend. I’ll meet you back here on Monday. I miss you already.