I like to read lots of parenting books because I lack confidence in my own instincts. They don’t always help. This year I gave my students copies of articles about getting your baby to sleep from Dr. Sears and Babywise to show them how to do research to solve a real problem. They were flabbergasted. “These articles tell you to do the exact opposite thing!” So I got to give them my spiel about evaluating evidence and thinking critically blah blah blah. But frankly, I’ve slept with my babies and let them cry it out with little success either way.

The Parenting Breakthrough by Merrilee Browne Boyack has been pretty helpful to me. Her approach is to systematically teach your kids everything they need to know to be adults. It makes a lot of sense and I think it’s great.

I know that serving others makes you love them but I already love my kids. I wouldn’t mind fewer opportunities to serve them. But sometimes when I say “get it/make it/pour it/fix it/start it/do it” yourself I worry that I’m lazy and uncaring. With Boyack’s approach, I can rest assured that I’m implementing a sound parenting philosophy. Check it out—your 3 year old will be making his own ketchup and cheese sandwiches in no time!

Find it here.