Oh my goodness. I’m laughing so hard! I just read this essay by Monica Bielanko called “Why I Can Never Order from Chipotle Again” and decided I wanted to share it with you at once. Despite what the title may imply, it’s not actually an article about Chipotle, it’s about the “sickness of trying to please people”.
I definitely have strong people pleasing instincts, and have had to learn to fight against those instincts over the years — because I simply can’t please everybody, and I can easily make myself sick if I try. In general, I do pretty well with keeping my people-pleasing in check, but when she talked about getting the wrong order at a restaurant, my brain did that ding! ding! ding! thing where it feels like the author has channelled your personal experience.
In the essay, the author talks about a time where she ordered a plate of shrimp, but the server brought a plate of scallops by mistake. She ate the “entire plate of slimy scallops” — and even left a generous 30% tip! — because it was more stressful to her to say something to the server and risk annoying him, than it was to just eat the mistaken plate of food.
I have totally done that! I’ve eaten the wrong food simply to avoid telling the server about the mistake. And now I’m totally curious and wondering how common this phenomenon is. Have you ever sent your plate back? Does the idea stress you out? Or do you NOT relate at all? Maybe you read the essay and think, what in the world is she talking about? Or is there another part of the essay you relate to more? I’d love to hear!
P.S. — It’s a short essay and funny! I think you’ll enjoy it.