Living With Kids: Jacqueline deMontravel

I don’t know what the weather looks like where you are, but in my neighborhood, this week suddenly turned cold and dreary. I am so glad that today’s Living With Kids post featuring the lovely Jacqueline deMontravel, is the perfect remedy for the winter blues (of the blues in general if it’s not winter where you are.) Jacqueline lives in Darien, CT and her house is full of clean lines and bright, white walls. It’s got tons of East Coast charm as well as some modern touches. And I love a house that is so full of art that the art is simply layered on top of itself. Welcome, Jacqueline!Keep reading to be inspired by this soft and still vibrant color palette!

It’s Too Late. You’ve Lost Your Guns.

Last week, a reader named Amy left a comment on the Protecting Your Family post that said:

“I used to think the same way as you with regard to this thought: “I definitely want you to be able to keep your guns, but….”

But you know what, now I do want to take your guns away. Why do you need them? I want to take them all away. I live each day with a pit in my stomach as I send my young children to school. Why do we have to live like this? Maybe we should start having an honest conversation about wanting to take ALL THE GUNS AWAY!!!!!!!”

And I replied with this comment:

“Maybe it’s just in the air right now, but I’ve been hearing a lot of that. One thought that occurred to me yesterday is this: A majority of American citizens have been asking, demanding, begging for improvements to our gun safety laws for a long time. The asks have been reasonable and accommodating. The asks have been small changes and simple fixes — like closing the gun show loopholes, or universal background checks. That same majority of Americans who want better gun regulations have listened to opposing views and acknowledged how unique and important our constitutional amendments are. But still, despite the patience, and small asks, and focus on common sense, and wide bi-partisan support for change, no action has been taken.

Have people reached the point where the majority of Americans are no longer willing to be accommodating about this? Are people feeling like: Hey, we tried to do this in small ways that wouldn’t freak you out, but you wouldn’t compromise even an inch. And now we’re done talking about small ways. We want all guns gone. Our patience is officially exhausted. You had your chance, but you weren’t willing to work with us, and now you’re going to lose your gun privileges.

I don’t know if that’s really how people are feeling right now, but if it is, I get it. And like I said, I’ve been seeing lots of comments similar to yours in the last few days.”

Turns out “seeing lots of comments like that” was understating it.

SO MUCH to discuss with you. Come see.

A Few Things

Hi Friends. How is everyone doing? Feeling emotionally bruised this week?

In sad news, it seems like callousness regarding school shootings is on the rise. I’m seeing more and more comments along the lines of: well, this is just the price we pay for our second amendment rights. You can find more discussion here.

In happy news, Ben Blair and I went to a late showing (as in 10:35 PM) of Black Panther last night. It’s a really good movie. And if you feel connected to Oakland, it’s especially fun. I can’t wait to take our teens.

In other happy news, we’re headed to San Diego this weekend to celebrate the 30th wedding anniversary of my sister Rachel and my brother-in-law Paul. No school on Monday so it will hopefully be a happy 3-day weekend.

How about you? How are you doing? How was your week?

By the way, I’ve got a few things I’ve been wanting to share with you:

13 links. So many really memorable ones.

What Does Protecting Your Family Look Like to You?

[ Note: Today, I spent much of my time discussing gun safety on Facebook. I attempted to write a post here, but couldn’t think of anything to add to this post, except another dose of heartbreak. This was originally published on October 3rd, 2017 — after the Las Vegas concert massacre. Sending love to you and yours. ]

I know I’m not the only one, but I find it very difficult to concentrate immediately following a national tragedy (whether it’s natural or man made). Obviously, I have strong feelings about this topic and come to this with my own biases, but here are some of the things I heard and learned yesterday as I argued with friends and strangers about guns:

1) When I mentioned something like stricter gun laws, or gun law reform, or improving gun laws, most of the gun owners responding seemed to hear my words as: I want to take your guns away. Even though I never suggested or hinted at such a thing. So that makes it hard to start a fruitful conversation. I’m still trying to figure out how to solve that glitch. Maybe if I start comments with “I definitely want you to be able to keep your guns, but….”

Nine more things I learned. Keep reading.

Happy Valentine’s Day 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day! Have you been able to give someone a little love today? We had a simple, sweet breakfast with the kids early this morning, and I’m hoping to drop off something to my daughter Maude at her dorm later today. But really, it’s been very low-key at our house. We only needed to make classmate valentines for June (we went with Mad Libs), which felt amazingly easy. As you can imagine, it’s so strange for me only having one child left in elementary school!

Keep reading for a love poem you’ll love.



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