A Few Things

Hello, Friends. This was a rough day in a rough week. I feel like I’m supposed to write something, but can’t seem to manage it. Like you, I’m devastated by the mass murder in New Zealand. It’s somehow totally predictable — like what else did we expect? While also reaching new levels of horror. I mean, he was performing. These murders were performed with a global audience of white nationalists and white supremacists in mind.

I’m not sure what to say. I’m thinking of the Muslim families my kids go to school with.I’m thinking about how unsafe they probably feel right now. I’m thinking of the Mosques here in Oakland. I’m looking for ways I can show love and support.

One article I read about the massacre offered up a new word that I’m finding helpful. The philosopher and author Timothy Morton coined the term “hyperobject” to describe a concept so huge that it’s almost impossible to grasp its entirety. The hatred that inspired the Christchurch massacre is a “hyperobject”.

Another article I appreciate is from the NYT — A Mass Shooting of, and for, the Internet.

I have a few things to share with you today, but it’s a shorter link list than usual. As I was working on this post, Olive and Maude were changing a tire and the jack slipped and we ended up at the emergency room. It’s a long story involving a team of firefighters having to lift our car, and thankfully, everyone is okay now. I’ll try to share details later. But for now, I’m beat and I need to head to bed. 

Click through for links.

When You Want to Scream About the College Admission Cheating Scandal

Have you been following the story about the College Admission Cheating Scandal? It makes me frustrated and angry on a dozen levels. Here are a few initial thoughts that have roared in my head over the last 24 hours:

– We suspect this kind of thing goes on, but here it is in all it’s ugly glory and it’s even grosser and more widespread than I imagined.

– The idea that rich people feel this need to hoard privilege. They have plenty of privilege already! Why would they cheat in order to get more?

– That even though only certain people are getting called out for this right now, it’s easy to bet there are hundreds? thousands? of families who have done the same thing, but just haven’t been caught. Perhaps they are feeling very nervous at the moment? At the same time it’s a reminder that rich people can do pretty much whatever they want and there are rarely if ever consequences. (Is it time to eat the rich?)

Lots of thoughts today. Keep reading.

Living With Kids: Amber Folkman

It’s always fun to share a tour featuring an adventurous family who can see the world from a different perspective. Say hello to Amber Folkman! Early in their marriage, Amber and her husband moved to the Philippines for his work, but eventually decided they wanted to stay and raise a family there. Amber’s home feels like an amazing tropical get-away — bright light, big windows, and lush tropical plants outside every window. And her design choices are just as inspiring. You’ll love the mix of thrifted pieces, locally crafted baskets and furniture, and bright colors. Enjoy this peak into Amber’s fun, bright and colorful world. Welcome, Amber!

This is really a home you can feel settled and comfortable in. Keep reading.

A Few Things

Hello, Friends. How are you? Happy International Women’s Day! How has your week been? Ben Blair’s birthday was yesterday, so we all went out for pizza and a movie last night to celebrate. We saw Captain Marvel and really loved it to pieces. I had zero previous knowledge of her character, so it was fun to learn the back story and find out what her powers are.

We actually had two birthday’s at our house this week — Maude turned twenty!!! Alas, she also had mid-terms this week and didn’t feel like she could celebrate. Maybe she’ll let us make her breakfast in bed this weekend. : )

Ready to dive into some weekend reading? Here are a few things I’ve wanted to share:

Fifteen links. They’re good ones! And many of them are women-focused.

Super Lice! Stay Calm & Get Combing

lice combs

This post was originally published in August 2015, but the other day, I received an email from a reader that said:

We’ve got lice raging through our school right now, and I remembered you’d posted about it a few years back. I searched for that post and found so much good, common sense, CALMING advice. Just wanted to suggest you repost it – maybe allow people to weigh in again on any new treatment or prevention products that have actually worked for them.

I think that’s a brilliant idea! So here is the post again. And I hope you’ll chime in with anything that has worked for you and your family. New effective combs? New effective shampoos? Other new treatments? Please share!


Have you been reading the crazy headlines about Super Lice? If you’ve missed out, here’s the summary: apparently, head lice in at least 25 states have become resistant to over-the-counter pesticides. Yuck.

But I have to say, I’m reading these reports with a raised eyebrow, because our big run-in with lice was over 6 years ago, and even back then, before “super lice” existed, I had zero luck with chemical responses to the bugs. In fact, if anyone asks me for lice advice, based on my own family’s experience, my response is always:

1) Skip the lice shampoo, it’s not reliable, and it gives false confidence.

2) Get the metal lice combs — the plastic ones don’t do a dang thing.

3) Don’t panic. Focus your energy on physically removing the lice (and the eggs!) from the hair. It takes time, so find time in your day (or evening), or hire a lice helper, or get an older niece or nephew to help.

For those of you in the middle of a lice catastrophe, you’re not alone. No shame, my friends. It can happen to anyone. And it’s totally the worst. Here’s how it went down at our house.

Keep reading for the whole lice saga.



Design Mom is all about the intersection of design and motherhood. I'm Gabrielle Blair (some people call me Gabby), a designer and mother of six. I think you're going to love reading Design Mom.

Here's why...

Shop With Gab


Follow Instagram Icon Along



    Design Mom