Was it a Bad Date? Or Was it Coercion?

I’ve been obnoxiously glued to the Aziz Ansari news story the last couple of days. It’s not a pleasant story, but I can’t seem to get it out of my mind. At this point, I’ve probably read a dozen essays in response, and another 2 dozen lengthy Twitter threads dissecting the situation, and placing blame on him, or on her, or on both.

If you haven’t seen the story, it’s from a woman who is using the name Grace, and it’s about a pretty terrible date she had with Aziz Ansari. You can read the original report here.

I have a million thoughts on this, and I want to hear your take.

Living With Kids: Elizabeth Ayoub

I remember when I started getting interested in design, it was the Arts and Crafts movement that first caught my attention. I loved all the interesting shapes and patterns and different tones of wood layered on top of each other. That’s why I was so excited today to introduce you to our lovely Living With Kids family, the Ayoubs. Elizabeth and her husband live in a gorgeous arts and crafts home in Michigan with their adorable daughter. The home is full of classic charm, and Elizabeth is as warm and interesting as you would expect her to be. Welcome, Elizabeth!

You’re not going to want to miss all the Arts and Crafts goodness, so keep reading.

Martin Luther King Jr. Day

It’s Martin Luther King Jr. Day! Do your kids have the day off of school today? Do you have the day off of work?

I was on Twitter this morning and someone suggested a great thing to do today would be to watch two of Ava Duvernay’s Oscar-nominated movies — the infuriating documentary, 13th, and the inspiring Selma. I thought that sounded like a brilliant plan.

I’m drawn to MLK quotes about justice. Four of my favorites straight ahead.

A Few Things

Hello, Friends. How are you? Was it a good week at your house? Our big event was celebrating Oscar’s 13th birthday. I can hardly believe it. Little Oscar is a teenager? How is that possible? Here are a few Oscar highlights that made me smile this week: This report of Oscar turning three (a decade ago when we lived in New York!). Oscar in second grade when we lived in France. Nine-year-old Oscar making a swing all by himself when we first moved to Oakland (it’s an Olive Us video and I’ll embed the video at the bottom of this post). Oscar sharing his school clothes for 7th grade this past fall.

It was also the first week back to school, and I have to say it felt good getting our family back on a regular schedule, and for me to have a full work week. One more thing on my mind this weekend, is that Maude’s next semester at Berkeley starts on Monday. She’s still finessing her class schedule, and we have a few errands to run before she moves back into the dorms this weekend. I’m having so many flashbacks to my own freshman year!

Before we go tackle Maude’s list, here are a few things I’ve wanted to share:

13 links I think you’ll love.

Cross This Life-Changing Task Off Your New Year To-Do List

This post is sponsored by Haven Life.

Our family schedule is just getting back to normal this week, and New Year’s Resolutions are still on my mind. In fact, we just spent some time at Joshua Tree National Park and the whole drive home we talked about goals and resolutions as a family. When I think about resolutions, I think about improving my family life in marked, recognizable ways. I definitely don’t have a hard and fast procedure for resolutions at all, and I seem to try something a little different each year. This year, I would love to focus on reducing stress, increasing joy, and increasing my appreciation of present.

To accomplish these, I’m looking at adjusting existing habits — nutrition, exercise, nighttime routine, grooming schedule, prayer, meditation, etc.. And I’m also, looking at how I might institute new practices (or re-institute old ones), like a gratitude journal, and up-keeping our family albums and scrapbooks. 

I realized I have a new category for my resolutions this year. Keep reading to learn more.



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