Comments on: Choosing Cheerfulness http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Wed, 19 Mar 2014 15:01:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: What I’m Reading | a glass of milk http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-867646 What I’m Reading | a glass of milk Fri, 14 Mar 2014 01:10:28 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-867646 [...] On cheerfulness. [...]

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By: Links Worth Sharing - Week of October 5, 2013 - Simply Frugal http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-753724 Links Worth Sharing - Week of October 5, 2013 - Simply Frugal Sat, 05 Oct 2013 14:57:02 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-753724 [...] Choosing Cheerfulness [...]

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By: Happy Friday! | Breakfast in Moscow http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-753142 Happy Friday! | Breakfast in Moscow Fri, 04 Oct 2013 05:03:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-753142 [...] Choosing cheerfulness (good idea!) [...]

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By: Julia http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-734694 Julia Sun, 15 Sep 2013 13:24:46 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-734694 Such a great post! Your thoughts about the grocery store reminded me of this video (This is Water, excerpts from a graduation speech by David Foster Wallace):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DaVrn1Sz0H8

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By: Chrissy http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-734113 Chrissy Sat, 14 Sep 2013 23:42:13 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-734113 Well…you can’t engage everyone, some people resist. However, most people like to talk about themselves and/or what they love. I often start with noticing something about them that I like…their earrings, a jaunty hat, their cute dog…it can be anything. And then I comment on it. Sincerity is everything. If they are someone I am engaging because they look like they need some positive interaction…then usually a very quiet but sincere and gentle, “how are things?” Or “tough day?” Or something that simple can open up a conversation that may astonish you. Like I said…some people won’t engage…but it is wonderful when they do. Cashiers, nurses and servers and other people that spend their day caring for others who are often rude or demanding are especially in need of this attention. Older people too, sometimes they may go a day or more without meaningful conversation with anyone.
The main thing is practice…if you do this long enough it becomes easier and easier. A smile goes a long way as well.

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By: Chrissy http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-734108 Chrissy Sat, 14 Sep 2013 23:33:05 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-734108 Haha…I am the cheerful person in my life! My husband and family are all lovely and happy and fun, however it is me with the smile I can’t suppress and the sincere interest in the life of the cashier (really…everyone has something interesting to say, if you allow it) and the sometimes irreverent happiness. My mom once said my happiness is like a bubble around me that cannot be popped permanently…it just keeps reappearing. Lol. Evidently I have been this way since birth. I don’t know how a person becomes this way, obviously, since I didn’t do it on purpose, but I can say it is a lovely way to live. From my perspective almost everyone is nice, almost everyone is helpful and there are funny or poignant or delightful human experiences to be had around every corner. Is this just because I am cheerful and open? I don’t know. It is likely, I would imagine.

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By: Sybil http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-732446 Sybil Fri, 13 Sep 2013 15:42:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-732446 I would love to show that care and kindness with strangers but I struggle with what to ask or say to engage… If there was a cheat sheet or a book with “opening topics/questions to engage just about any stranger” that would be awesome :-)

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By: Weekend Pretties | All Sorts of Pretty http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-732374 Weekend Pretties | All Sorts of Pretty Fri, 13 Sep 2013 14:24:27 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-732374 [...] I wish I was more like this person. [...]

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By: Janet http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-729494 Janet Wed, 11 Sep 2013 13:07:30 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-729494 Loved reading this! My daughter and I are both trying to incorporate cheerfulness and kindness. Yesterday was day 1 and we both felt happier!

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By: Amy’s Notebook 09.11.13 | The Motherload http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-729354 Amy’s Notebook 09.11.13 | The Motherload Wed, 11 Sep 2013 11:01:56 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-729354 [...] I love this article on Choosing Cheerfulness, including this great quote: “by making other people feel good, something wonderful happens [...]

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By: Jennifer Reynolds http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-728501 Jennifer Reynolds Tue, 10 Sep 2013 17:09:11 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-728501 It’s like that Abraham Lincoln quote “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Sometimes it’s hard to remember we control our thoughts, right? Great post.

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By: Rina Mae http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-728199 Rina Mae Tue, 10 Sep 2013 11:59:02 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-728199 Thank-you so much for this post. As an expat in the Netherlands, I wish I had read this a LONG time ago. I am also now embracing the concept of “cheerfulness”/mindfulness and I am definitely at a happier place in life.

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By: Kathryn http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727554 Kathryn Tue, 10 Sep 2013 01:22:52 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727554 Have you read the book by Tom Rath, How Full Is Your Bucket?
He has written a book for adults and has a picture book for kids, by the same title. You should check it out! Great message about kindness to others.
I teach 4th grade and always read it on the first day of school. For homework, I have the kids do something kind for someone in their family. Once a week the kids fill out bucket slips for a friend or family member. Everyone loves giving and receiving them!

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By: Nan http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727462 Nan Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:37:08 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727462 SOMETHING WONDERFUL…always happens when I choose cheerfulness. Just the very act of mindfully CHOOSING lifts me up. It is the best me that makes that choice and it leads to other “best practices”. Win, win, win, win!

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By: Lisette Wolter-McKinley http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727434 Lisette Wolter-McKinley Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:13:10 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727434 My husband sounds a lot like your friend. Making people feel important, cared about and valued is priceless and a wonderful trait to try to emulate.

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By: julia http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727431 julia Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:08:47 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727431 hmm…good thought provoking post! I think cheerfulness is often a choice, at least for me, and I try my best. I try to be transparent too though. If I am having a terrible day I’d rather tell a friend than pretend its going great.

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By: Amy Hackworth http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727378 Amy Hackworth Mon, 09 Sep 2013 22:27:12 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727378 Thanks so much, Margaret. I missed that the first time around, so I’m looking forward to listening to it later today.

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By: Amy Hackworth http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727373 Amy Hackworth Mon, 09 Sep 2013 22:23:19 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727373 Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Val. I love hearing that this has made a noticeable difference for you over the years. That’s really inspiring. It makes me think that we can all start small, and we can all do hard things, too.

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By: Margaret http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727215 Margaret Mon, 09 Sep 2013 20:43:46 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727215 Your description at the check-out line reminded me of a previous Design Mom post by Koseli: http://www.designmom.com/2013/05/the-best-advice-from-david-foster-wallace/

It’s always good to have one of those blindingly sunny people in our lives, isn’t it? I find it a great reminder of the joys we take for granted.

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By: Val http://www.designmom.com/2013/09/choosing-cheerfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-727211 Val Mon, 09 Sep 2013 20:40:10 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=40564#comment-727211 I love this topic, and your article, Amy! It took me back to a women’s meeting that I attended 10(!) years ago, where a woman I admired spoke about deliberately choosing happiness in our lives. The meeting came during a low point in my life, and I wanted a change, so I took her challenge to “choose happiness” on a daily basis. I started very simply — with grocery store clerks and others I encountered each day, and I can’t believe the change that it has produced in those 10 years.

At first, I felt like it was an “act”, but before long, I realized that it wasn’t really acting, but how my spirit genuinely felt. Recognizing that truth created a monumental shift for me! Deliberately choosing happiness has allowed me to go through some very difficult personal trials with a “sunnier” outlook, and I think it has kept my natural tendency for depression at bay. At this point, I don’t even consciously think about choosing cheerfulness, it simply has become second nature.

Today, as I read your lovely article, I realized how incredibly grateful I am for the beautiful woman who shared her own secret of daily choosing happiness. My life is infinitely better because of it!

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