Comments on: A Little Update http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Sat, 30 Aug 2014 02:20:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Kari http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-701025 Kari Wed, 28 Aug 2013 14:45:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-701025 Hi there, Gabrielle. I hope you see this even though I’m commenting some time after this post. I have followed your blog for a while now, but I’ve lapsed my readership as I had my own huge transition this year. In December, my husband and I added our first child (about a year after marriage, so transitions abound). Then, in April, he accepted a position in a different country. His job search coincided directly with my time of birthing our daughter. In fact, he flew out 7 days after she was born for one interview (bad idea).
We just landed in our new country a couple of weeks ago, and I thought to look up your blog and whether your family had made its move. Lo and behold, you have! And you ended up in NorCal, which is where I lived for over three years. And (why I am writing) it was hard for you as well.
I identify with so much you have written, especially with the packing, sorting, getting rid of posts. We had to very quickly sort and decide on our household of accumulated goods, and it was gut-wrenching. We’d only lived in that one place since we were married, and it’s where our first child was born. So many beautiful things–what do you do with them?
Also, everything is really great for us, and it seems like things are pretty great for you as well (great new house! great kids! great husband!), and that makes it even harder to deal with negative emotions because on top of whatever else you feel you feel guilty for feeling bad. That’s me, anyhow.
So, thank you for your posts. They are helping me. I identify. I appreciate you.

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By: Gillian http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-696018 Gillian Tue, 27 Aug 2013 13:53:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-696018 Thank you for your incredible courage. You are indeed a wonderful voice for women. And happy anniversary.

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By: Kate the Great http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-694094 Kate the Great Tue, 27 Aug 2013 05:11:03 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-694094 Oh, darling Gabrielle. You mean the world to me, and I hate to see you so down. You’re wonderfully brave to link to the post that has your admission of being not-so-peppy, even if it is at the end of a much-anticipated post of the inside of your new home. I’m glad you did link to it, because I had anticipated it, and would have missed it otherwise.

I’m rooting for you. Not the stuff you have, not your kids or your new location. I’m rooting for you. Because you’re such a genuine writer. I skip most of the work your contributors post, and your writing is still what I anticipate.

Rah, rah, rah! Go, Gabrielle! We love you!

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By: Amber http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-685239 Amber Mon, 26 Aug 2013 04:49:54 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-685239 I just wanted to add my words of support to what you’ve already gotten. I am pulling for you, I have teens and toddlers too and it is a lot of responsibility and dealing with buying a house overseas, what a nightmare! It took us over a year to move to our current home 1 hour away from our other one, and I thought that was a nightmare! Anyway, thanks for sharing yourself here, I loved seeing how it is possible to live in France with six kids, we plan to do something similar in the next couple years. Hugs, and prayers!

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By: Mary http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-672895 Mary Sat, 24 Aug 2013 12:10:27 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-672895 Hi Gabrielle,
I wrote in a few days ago, and for whatever reason I just felt compelled to write in again. I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression for the majority of my life, and I really feel for you (and fellow sufferers) – I know how bleak everything can seem, and it’s just awful!

My little nugget of advice has to do with the state of your gut. There is more and more scientific evidence stating that our guts are our second brain, and control how we feel. Read here if you’d like: http://www.theverge.com/2013/8/21/4595712/gut-feelings-the-future-of-psychiatry-may-be-inside-your-stomach

Further more, you and your kiddos could make water kefir, or yogurt or any variety of yummy fermented foods. It might make all the difference in the world. Or at the very least, it will be a yummy addition to your meal!

Please feel free to contact me if you’d like to further discuss – I LOVE getting into the nitty gritty with healing foods! Until then, I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

xo
Mary

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By: Kirsten http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-662420 Kirsten Fri, 23 Aug 2013 06:56:17 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-662420 Thank you for your honesty in sharing what you are going through. So often we share our feelings and illnesses online but there remains a stigma about mental health.

And sometimes when trying to talk to others there can be a lack of acceptance or a shrugging it off…like you’ll get past it..and then on with our lives we go.

But sometimes, sometimes, these things are deeper. I finally gave into the idea of therapy a few years ago. After about a year of therapy and medication I realized there were a lot of things I had needed to work out and getting that help was the best thing I did. Now when things are overwhelming or I am “having a bad people day” I think back to things I learned and it helps. It also helped that she taught me things about myself that were okay about me. Accepting myself for who I am and what I have lived through has enabled me to have a better future. I’m a better parent, wife and person because of this.

Whatever path you take, whatever your future holds for you I wish you the best and happy anniversary.

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By: Jessica http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-658042 Jessica Thu, 22 Aug 2013 17:32:47 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-658042 Happy Anniversary and best wishes for peace and healing. Agree with previous posters – this is such a wonderful and genuine blog! So glad you are taking care of yourself.

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By: Nicole http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-653485 Nicole Thu, 22 Aug 2013 06:14:02 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-653485 That pic is super duper sweet. Just take it one day at a time, one simple act of self care, one “no thank you, I’m not quite feeling myself right now”… And soon you’ll realize that you might feel a little better. I’m so glad you are taking care of yourself. We all have limits. Xoxoxo

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By: Gia http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-652745 Gia Thu, 22 Aug 2013 04:00:55 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-652745 What a lovely way to celebrate and Happy Anniversary. I’m so happy to hear that you’re taking it easy and being proactive about your health. Isn’t it funny how “taking it easy” looks so different after kids? I remember having totally lazy, self centered care days before children and now, something that just takes one plate out of my hands for the day, seems like a vacation. Hope you rest up and feel yourself again soon. Lots and lots of easy transitions to you, as kids start school and life settles in the new home.

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By: Yvonne http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-652638 Yvonne Thu, 22 Aug 2013 03:32:52 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-652638 Happy Anniversary! What a beautiful life you have built together – sounds like your celebration was just right – remembering that special moment when you joined together forever is so affirming. Lots of prayers for peace and healing are floating up to you from here on the island!

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By: Lili Smith http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-652167 Lili Smith Thu, 22 Aug 2013 01:20:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-652167 Gabrielle, Hang in there! Take time for yourself — I know you have heard this before and probably will only slow down for one nano-second! You have an entire family out here routing for you to rest. Family always come first! We can wait until you are ready to start blogging again– Don’t worry, we will still be here : ) Because even though we don’t know you personally, we all have grown to love you and your family from afar : )

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By: Rebecca Coagan http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-651796 Rebecca Coagan Wed, 21 Aug 2013 23:37:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-651796 Dear Gabrielle,
Hang in there, kid!
I am new to your blog-very cool, Olive Us series- amazing, moving to France-we’re doing it, etc. and loving it. You have been a great source of inspiration and sometimes anxiety imagining all that you consistently accomplish.
Personally, I have gone through…a bit…and most recently have received a neuro-adrenal test from my naturopath (one of many docs on the case). The supplements are amino acids and have been life changing. I am so much calmer and feel a sense of wellbeing most of the time. Basically, removing all of the “anxiety for no reason” symptoms and a lot more calm dealing with the “anxiety for good reasons”. This is only because of a lot of stress and the bodies adrenals getting weakened. I’m thinking a lot of ladies need some boosting here. Let me know if you need any further info. take care, Rebecca

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By: kayce hughes http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-651715 kayce hughes Wed, 21 Aug 2013 23:18:13 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-651715 So glad to hear that you had a sweet day. You are in my prayers.
xokc

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By: samantha hahn http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-651427 samantha hahn Wed, 21 Aug 2013 22:33:48 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-651427 hang in there. your home is so beautiful and now maybe, with a little time you will be able to just breathe, settle in and give yourself time to enjoy your new life.

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By: Amanda http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-650710 Amanda Wed, 21 Aug 2013 20:54:20 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-650710 I’ve been thinking about this and am sending you lots of good thoughts. But mostly I want to say thank you. For being so frank and matter-of-fact and unapologetic. Because too many people suffer and are ashamed and hide their depression. So thank you, thank you, thank you for writing about your difficult time.

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By: Debbie http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-649889 Debbie Wed, 21 Aug 2013 19:09:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-649889 Gabby, I thank you. I am a mother of 5 and we have moved a lot. Recently my husband mentioning another possible move affected me so deeply I could hardly recognize myself. I love where we are and so do our kids. I fear another big change and have wondered if I am being “weak”. My tolerance now that I am 45 for major changes is going down and it affects my sleep. I literally stay awake and watch the sunrise agonizing every life’s possible problem. It is difficult for my husband to understand. After reading your truthful post I feel less alone and realize we are all human. Too often we can look at another’s life and think it perfect and see another’s story and feel less than, but in reality everyone struggles through something. I know it is the kindnesses that make life worth living. The beautiful kindnesses are so important to me now.I cherish my good relationships and the great little moments. Bless you. You are helping more than you probably know. Xo Debbie

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By: Whitney http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-649709 Whitney Wed, 21 Aug 2013 18:48:56 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-649709 I’m all for putting yourself back at the top of the list. Whenever I neglect myself – our family sleighride gets twisty. Knowing what I need and actually working my “self care” list is hard, time-consuming, but so needful. Be well and peace be with you. Welcome back to the USA.

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By: melissa http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-647696 melissa Wed, 21 Aug 2013 14:24:12 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-647696 Gabrielle, I think you’re awesome. I admire how you raise your six kids, that you even have six kids, and your work–all of it. Best wishes and prayers.

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By: Molly W. http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-647683 Molly W. Wed, 21 Aug 2013 14:22:52 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-647683 You have so much going on, I don’t know how any one could stay totally sane with all you’ve got on your plate! Relax and rest. I keep thinking of Jesus’ words “come to me all who are burdened and heavy laden and I will give you rest.” Prayers being sent. xo

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By: Valerie http://www.designmom.com/2013/08/a-little-update/comment-page-1/#comment-647468 Valerie Wed, 21 Aug 2013 13:48:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=39872#comment-647468 Courage Gabrielle. As someone who suffers from depression and going through a rough patch right now, I sympathize greatly. It is more than just Okay to say that we can’t and need some time for ourselves. I also just discovered that being jet lagged is now a trigger for me, it never was in the past (even with kids in tow).

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