Comments on: The Parent of All Virtues http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Fri, 30 May 2014 13:16:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: helen http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-541148 helen Thu, 25 Jul 2013 20:31:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-541148 hello,
my profoundest experience with gratitude was when my much loved mom was in surgery. after having her ear removed (she had cancer in her ear) she started to bleed dramatically. she was in such rough shape that we were told to clear thing from her hospital bedside. at best she would be in ICU and at worst … well, you get it. i was devastated. but i had been practicing my gratitude moments with alarming regularity at this point and remember so clearly being in a big parkade in a shopping mall buying food to feed the living. it all felt so raw and weighty. i found gratitude in the small blessing – the parking spot right in front where i wanted to shop, the shopping cart right where i needed it … it was healing and so helpful. my mom lived another 10 years – we referred to those as her bonus years:) but that brush with gratitude’s work has informed so much of my life since. as a family we do it regularly around the supper table. it shifts so much for me:) thanks for writing about gratitude:)

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By: Lindsey http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-538045 Lindsey Tue, 23 Jul 2013 10:05:33 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-538045 This post – and the lovely comments – has inspired me to buy the book and reclaim my gratitude. During my pregnancy and following our move to Switzerland, I was so grateful and so happy! But since then I’ve settled into a bit of a rut. I find myself feeling jealous of what others have or overwhelmed with living abroad long-term. Really I have everything to be thankful for and it’s true that an attitude of gratitude is incredibly powerful. Thank you, Amy and Gabby! xoxoxoxoxo

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By: Lindsey http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-538044 Lindsey Tue, 23 Jul 2013 10:02:50 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-538044 I love this! <3

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By: Nicole_boldgoods http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-534656 Nicole_boldgoods Sat, 20 Jul 2013 13:25:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-534656 I love this post, and agree wholeheartedly. My husband finished law school last year, and I just finished. He’s still under-employed, and I’m unemployed, so we’ve spent the entire time we’ve known each other basically at the poverty level. Nonetheless, we have a ritual of starting dinner every night with three things we are thankful for, and it is such a rewarding practice! It also helps us remember why we are in love, because undoubtedly one of us is most thankful for a kindness the other one showed us that day.

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By: Mara Kofoed http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-531544 Mara Kofoed Thu, 18 Jul 2013 03:26:44 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-531544 Dear Amy, thanks so much for sharing my post here! I actually think of you so fondly because I got to see you that first night I went out after we got the news. It was wonderful to see a friend when I walked in the door at Sunday Suppers. xo

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By: Loni http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-531489 Loni Thu, 18 Jul 2013 01:41:11 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-531489 I keep a daily gratitude journal; it helps me really focus on what I have to be grateful for. I try not to name the same things, so coming up with something new every day is a constant reminder that I have much to be grateful for. I love the idea of asking your boys about their favorite things of the day. It’s good to have them reflect because we all have such unique moments during every day.

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By: Kelsey http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-531028 Kelsey Wed, 17 Jul 2013 18:40:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-531028 I love this post! I’m in the midst of a lot of life changes (just graduated from grad school, a baby due in the fall, moving back to my rural hometown, helping with caregiving for my father with Alzheimer’s) and I sometimes feel like I’m trapped in an endless cycle of stress. Recently I’ve come to the conclusion that I really need to incorporate more mindfulness into my life so I can appreciate the gifts I’ve been given while I’m blessed to still have them. Having gratitude as the focus of my mindfulness feels so exciting and right and can be so simple to find in my daily life. Thank you for this post and the little push to be more grateful.

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By: Stella http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-529667 Stella Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:14:39 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-529667 I love that this is part of your bedtime routine with your kids. When I have kids, I want to remember this one. And maybe I should start implementing it into my own bedtime routine right now. When I’m feeling grumpy I like to complain and be miserable…. but my husband likes to try and distract me by asking about something good in my day. Usually this annoys me at first ;) but after a few minutes, it really does change my whole mood. Thank goodness for that happy, grateful husband of mine!

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By: rachel swartley http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-529635 rachel swartley Tue, 16 Jul 2013 14:48:29 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-529635 Long before the #firstworldproblems hashtag became popular, I have often tried to check my own attitude and adjust my perspective when I’m feeling grumpy about something. When there’s sand in the van, I can be thankful that we have reliable transportation and the luxury of a vacation. Washing dishes after supper means we had enough food to eat. Waking up in the middle of the night to feed my baby means I didn’t die in childbirth. We have so much to be grateful for!

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By: Shannon http://www.designmom.com/2013/07/the-parent-of-all-virtues/comment-page-1/#comment-529601 Shannon Tue, 16 Jul 2013 13:54:45 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=38821#comment-529601 The most significant moment of gratitude I’ve experienced was actually something my husband said. Several years ago, he suffered a serious spinal cord injury and spent weeks in the hospital and then months recovering (he’s still recovering). But the incredible kindness and generosity of our family, friends, and community led him to say one day, “Other than the accident itself, this has been a wonderful experience.”

His attitude helped transform something terrible into something meaningful, and his words continue to remind me that ultimately we choose how we see the world, and we can choose to be grateful.

One other thing: One night I came home after a long day at the hospital to find a blank envelope containing a significant amount of cash in our mailbox (enough to cover my lack of freelancing for a couple of months while he was recovering). To this day I have no idea who put it there, but the generosity of that gift goes beyond the money: when you don’t know who exactly to be grateful to, you just have to be grateful to everyone!

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