Comments on: Descriptions http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Sun, 14 Sep 2014 16:00:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Modern Birth Announcements – Modern Art Class Series – Vintage Dolls | Small for Big http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-458398 Modern Birth Announcements – Modern Art Class Series – Vintage Dolls | Small for Big Fri, 26 Apr 2013 13:01:44 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-458398 [...] A beautiful ad campaign by Dove, no seriously, you need to watch this video, via Design Mom. [...]

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By: kalanicut http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457517 kalanicut Mon, 22 Apr 2013 16:11:53 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457517 Just to add a little levity to this, have you seen the parody of the Dove campaign: How Men See Themselves. It’s a good laugh and of course brings up deeper questions about how differently men and women perceive themselves and are perhaps taught to view themselves…but it’s worth a laugh.

http://mashable.com/2013/04/18/dove-experiment-parody/

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By: Lindsee Jo http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457385 Lindsee Jo Sun, 21 Apr 2013 07:22:40 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457385 I am very petite (we are talking 85 lbs) and it makes me unique.
I have big eyes that droop a bit, and they remind me of my dad and my son.
I have very feminine, dainty hands and feet.

I love this. And who cares if it’s just for advertising’s sake–it’s still true. Women are hard on themselves. We see our flaws first–and then we compare them with every woman we meet.

We are all beautiful and our diversity is what makes it so. Thanks for reminding us.

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By: Whitney http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457339 Whitney Sat, 20 Apr 2013 17:24:08 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457339 This was beautiful to watch. It definitely brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing.

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By: Gina http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457291 Gina Sat, 20 Apr 2013 08:24:04 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457291 Oh, my. I just have to add to this and appreciate reading so many of your reader comments! Yes, yes, yes! It is to elemental but, I think we need to say those words to your girls (and yourself – I suspect it starts with us! It’s a rare adult women I meet who doesn’t talk badly about herself and have a poor self image; even those who are wildly successful, talented, etc…I’ve been reacting more and more to this. It makes me so sad.) and let’s help our next generation! It wastes so much time, energy, negativity, joy…and takes so much away from just living, enjoying and giving — connection – this day….. I am who I am!

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By: Alea http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457242 Alea Fri, 19 Apr 2013 21:31:55 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457242 Several friends and I had this same conversation, though about our homes, recently. Why do we mix the good with the bad? Someone compliments a piece of furniture and you have to downplay it by saying, oh well, it’s pretty wobbly really, or something like that. We decided we don’t like to make others feel bad about what they may feel is lacking in themselves, so we downplay ourselves, or our stuff. So, does that mean we’re not fully comfortable with the gifts we have, or with how we have used our money? Can’t we just be pleased with what God has chosen to allow us to have, whether it’s good looks or possessions? It’s an interesting subject becuase it’s hard to say if it’s modesty, or in fact pride.

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By: Amanda Robinson http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457073 Amanda Robinson Fri, 19 Apr 2013 05:51:35 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457073 Wonderful post and a great video. Although I do not buy dove products, I appreciate their ad campaign and what seems like empowerment in women. I hope that my husband, family and I can continue to empower our daughters as they will soon be entering school and will start to see differences in their classmates and themselves.

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By: Martha http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457032 Martha Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:57:20 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457032 I love that you posted a link to your discussion of lopsided breasts, I really needed to read that right now. With breastfeeding my first, my right boob dried up at 12 months and the left kept going for another six. I’m nursing my second one right now and at four months I quit nursing on the right side. I didn’t have surgery or anything, it just doesn’t like to make milk, and when it does make milk I get lots of clogged ducts and milk blebs. I have been trying to see it as a positive and be thankful that just one breast can make enough milk! The first time around I felt much more self conscious but now I know that it is a badge of honor.

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By: Island girl http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457025 Island girl Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:18:36 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457025 Ps. Oh, and I love my naturally curly hair and my uber-long eyelashes that never need mascara! :)

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By: Island girl http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-457022 Island girl Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:16:53 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-457022 Ugh, I would definitely urge you to read that article, G:
http://jazzylittledrops.tumblr.com/post/48118645174/why-doves-real-beauty-sketches-video-makes-me

To all of you (mostly, if not all white women) who see “nothing wrong” with that ad, try being an asian-american woman in her mid 30s who NEVER saw a minority woman in mainstream pop culture in the 70s or 80s as an example of glamour or beauty until maybe Whitney Houston came along….and that was about it. then naomi campbell and tyra, etc. but ZERO asian-american women as beauty role models. And now that I have kids, I’m concerned that the message they receive from ads like this is just more of the same old same old “WHITE women are examples of beauty.” Can’t you all see why a woman of color (and mom to 2 boys who could pass as white) would just roll her eyes at this video when women of color were shown for like 10 seconds and never once in a ‘positive’ light? Dove’s over all message is good– to love yourself– I just wish they would have been more inclusive about what examples of beauty they used. I mean, it IS 2013, not 1953!

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By: Maike http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456969 Maike Thu, 18 Apr 2013 23:39:07 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456969 Okay, here is what I thought. Of course it is a commercial tactic to sell more of their product by making videos like this. The opposite of what everybody else is doing. Fair enough. I don’t mind if they mean it or not, it does definitely no harm.
But: I noticed, that all the drawn faces in the video that were done after the self-description of the women kind of looked similar. They reminded me of the cartoon portraits that you can have done in every european shopping mall for money. Do you know the ones I mean?
So I wonder, if the FBI-guy was briefed in such a way to draw – whatever the women were saying- a little bit in that style when they were describing themselves and not when they were describing others. I find them to obviously similar.
And also: I like the way I look. Could I describe myself properly? I don’t think so. I would not be able to describe my voice, my laugh, my eyes (how they look when I talk) because I do not see myself from the outside, thank God.

So this video seems to be a bit of a cheap trick to me and does not prove what it tells you to prove. Only a very narcissistic person can describe herself properly. It has nothing to do with self-confidence. That’s what I think.

Although: The point it makes: very true. We are more beautiful than we think.

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By: Shannon { A Mom's Year } http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456951 Shannon { A Mom's Year } Thu, 18 Apr 2013 22:45:32 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456951 I didn’t have an issue with the fact that this is an advertisement. We English majors have to make a living, and advertising’s one of the ways to do it. Doesn’t mean it’s not a good story. :)

Two things resonated especially with me: I felt so bad for the woman who explains that her mother told her she has a big chin. Ouch. Good reminder to be so very careful about what we say to our children. Even if we think we’re being “helpful.”

The second thing is more personal, but the friend who shared the video with me has both a Caucasian daughter and an Asian daughter, like me, and I know we both feel protective of our girls. My younger daughter has compared herself unfavorably to her older sister, and I’ve actually overheard other children comment on the shape of her eyes and nose. The kids are very young and weren’t being malicious, but of course it bothers me.

Which is all to say that what I took away was the reminder that words matter and can be remembered much longer than you think.

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By: Sara http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456917 Sara Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:56:20 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456917 I loved this video…yes Dove is a commercial company and this is marketing for them, but I have been really impressed with a lot of the marketing they have done. I don’t have any issue with it. There are soooo many terrible marketing campaigns out there with photoshopped women wearing tons of makeup and promiscuous clothing, I definitely prefer this! I struggle with focusing on my flaws, but I have long dark eyelashes, nice teeth (thanks to years of orthodontics!) and am kind and intelligent :)

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By: Katie http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456911 Katie Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:44:57 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456911 Had to post again…

This reminds me of how happy my Mom and I were when there were 20 women US senators voted into Congress this past election. The most in history. I called her and we shared a great bonding moment of how far we’ve come.

Then, my Mom said … “20 out of 100. Let’s not get too excited until it’s 50.”

Dove ad…good job, but let’s keep up the good fight ladies.

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By: Colleen http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456892 Colleen Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:18:16 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456892 The topic of physical beauty and society’s focus on it has been on my mind lately as I’ve discovered the “Beauty Redefined” campaign (http://www.beautyredefined.net/) and one of their messages: “You are capable of much more than being hot!” I have a two-year-old daughter and I already catch myself telling her (far too many times a day!) how beautiful she is. I am consciously trying to refocus on her other positive traits. I tell my son he’s funny and smart and witty, but I tell my daughter she is pretty. I don’t want her to think that what she looks like is the most important thing about her. It’s such a hard subject though, because physical beauty IS appealing and it IS a blessing. I just don’t want it to be her identity.

I have wide brown eyes, pretty lips, and a decent metabolism. I am perfectly content weighing 20 pounds more than I did before having my babies. I have often been grateful that I am moderately pretty without being distractingly beautiful.

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By: Lindsay http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456889 Lindsay Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:12:44 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456889 tere-Roald Dahl is one of my favorite authors, and that quote is one of my favorites. I have been surprised by some of the negative discussion this ad has brought out. I have read discussions about the percentage of ethnic representation in the ad, the focus on only the outward appearance that the world has, how unfair it is that we allow physical appearance to infiltrate our views in so many aspects of life. Sure, it is marketing, and I am glad it is spurring discussions, but we will all see what we want to see. We can take the positive things we learn from the discussions and be grateful or we can focus on its own imperfections and see the ugly in it. My take, don’t be so hard on yourself, whether it is physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. Seek to see the good in yourself, the beautiful (not just physically), but sometimes the physical is easier to see. Also, it is a great reminder (like the quote) that we should get to know more than the physical side of things. That alone changes perceptions.

Along with some of the comments on getting older and dealing with the pressures of physical appearance that pervade our society, I had a discussion with a group of older German women 13 years ago. I remember it so vividly and the wisdom I gleaned from them. It was New Years Day 2000, and I had been invited to a brunch with a group of women. Most were over the age of 50, though some were single, others married, divorced, widowed. My roommate and I were both in our early 20s. They started discussing the trends of plastic surgery and how disturbing it was to them. I loved how they talked about not wanting to “hide life experience” or “diminish” the stress, heartache, challenges, etc that they had faced. They embraced their stretch marks as badges of honor, their wrinkles told of lives lived. I hope that I will never forget to keep those views of beauty. it is all about perspective, and I hope we can adjust ours toward one that is positive.

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By: Val http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456883 Val Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:08:05 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456883 Fantastic discussion going on here! I watched this just yesterday, and I think it really reminded me that as women we often judge whether we ourselves are beautiful based solely on outward features. But, I loved that in the video each stranger found a different kind of beauty in the women they talked to — the kind that shines from the inside out. I was struck by the fact that beauty isn’t really about having the perfect facial features or bone structure or even anything tangible. Rather, it is through our interactions with others that our true beauty shines — bringing the beautiful that exists in everyone from the inside out! I feel that while I don’t have a lot of “traditional” beauty, I AM BEAUTIFUL because I’m perfectly happy with who I am :)

My favorite feature about myself is my smile that almost always twinkles in my eyes.

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By: Angel Kho http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456882 Angel Kho Thu, 18 Apr 2013 21:08:03 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456882 The video is superficial. It still focuses on women’s outward appearance. Beauty shouldn’t have impact on how we make friends, applying for jobs and raising kids. Sadly, the world doesn’t see it that way. There was an article circling around Facebook a year ago on how we should compliment little girls. The author talked about how people should steer away from making compliments on their look, like , “You are so cute!” or “You are pretty!” instead focus on other qualities, like “you are a kind girl.” “You are a great helper!” I couldn’t have agreed more.

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By: Carrie Stroud http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456872 Carrie Stroud Thu, 18 Apr 2013 20:57:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456872 Also– this is one of the best poetry slams about this subject I have ever seen:) There is an “appropriate” F-bomb so watch out…but the end just gives me chills.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M6wJl37N9C0

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By: Carrie Stroud http://www.designmom.com/2013/04/descriptions/comment-page-1/#comment-456865 Carrie Stroud Thu, 18 Apr 2013 20:53:11 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=34572#comment-456865 I’m disappointed in many of these comments that seem to be negative towards this Dove campaign. I don’t care what company supports what company, but I do care about the fact that ANY message telling a woman that she is beautiful on the outside is great. I applaud them for doing it, because every other media source states perfection and a certain type of beauty is what we should aspire to. Yes, the inside is what counts, but I truly think the outside does as well. We would be ignorant to think it does not. Not everyone is model (as the world perceives) beautiful, but EVERY woman has outward beauty in some form and considering the world we live in, it IS important to find and acknowledge that about ourselves and one another.

I have quite a few prominent moles on my face. I call them beauty marks and every time a little child looks and asks about them (which they often do so innocently), I tell them they are angel kisses.

I have great legs.

My eyes are rock’n.

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