Comments on: Discussing Weight and Body Image http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Tue, 01 Jul 2014 01:45:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Simple Changes no. 4 | THINGS CHANGE! http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-437704 Simple Changes no. 4 | THINGS CHANGE! Mon, 11 Feb 2013 16:02:02 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-437704 [...] Weight and Body Image with your [...]

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By: Friday Links - Designing Around http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-437320 Friday Links - Designing Around Fri, 08 Feb 2013 20:48:22 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-437320 [...] should we talk to our children? (this one pissed me off, especially some of the [...]

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By: sandy http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-436243 sandy Thu, 07 Feb 2013 14:26:01 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-436243 Don’t be ridiculous. If you’re disabled its even more important to have a healthy weigh. If your weight as a child is due to a medical problem a pediatrician always tries to find a way to keep the child at a healthy weight.

Obesity sucks for kids, yes partly because other children are cruel, but also because its uncomfortable, you can’t run without getting tired, your thighs rub together, its difficult to bend, you don’t fit in child size things like chairs desks, there are a myriad of reasons. Never mind the long life habits you build, making a fat unhealthy adult.

Parents have a responsibility to their children to make their lives easier, not more difficult. Feeding your child with no regard to their weight and health is not good parenting. It’s cruel to make a child heavy, then leave then to deal, and blame their difficulties on others.

Parents need to say no and learn to deal with tantrums, too many parents are lazy.

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By: Elisabeth http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435868 Elisabeth Tue, 05 Feb 2013 21:11:17 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435868 I’m really glad you shared this- I think people often see someone who is slender and assume that they don’t need to worry about what they eat/how much they exercise, but that’s certainly not true. Just because you’re skinny doesn’t mean you live a healthy life. I am on the small side as well, and whenever I say that I really need to eat better or exercise more, people will give me looks or say something along the lines of, “I really don’t think you need to worry”. But that’s not true- everyone needs to develop healthy habits. I think it’s important that we focus on being healthy rather than what our bodies look like in terms of weight.

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By: Rebecca Alexis http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435858 Rebecca Alexis Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:25:41 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435858 It is so important that we teach our children to learn how to care for themselves in a variety of ways. That we teach them to nourish their body with delicious, quality food, but also how to nourish their soul as well. I wrote a bit (okay a lot!) about hunger, not just our physical hunger, but our spiritual hunger as well, here in this blog post.
http://pomegranateandseeds.blogspot.com/2013/01/our-hunger-my-hunger.html

I would love to know your thoughts. When we take care of our Self, I believe we are better able to teach our children to do the same.xxoo

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By: Melissa http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435853 Melissa Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:09:27 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435853 Wow, obesity is not a marker of child abuse considering the ENORMOUS variety of reasons a child might be obese, including disability. That is quite an ignorant statement based on stereotypes.

You should do your best to keep your kids healthy, but sounds like you also need to teach them not to be mean to fat children. Obesity sucks for a kid because other kids are rude, THAT isn’t the fat child’s fault but the taunting kids.

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By: Melissa http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435852 Melissa Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:06:47 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435852 Wonderful comment!

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By: Melissa http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435851 Melissa Tue, 05 Feb 2013 20:05:10 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435851 Thank you for saying this. Because it’s the truth we don’t hear often enough. NO ONE knows how to permanently make someone lose or gain weight. On top of this weight is not an indicator of health.

And I’m so very sick of people not understanding young bodies, including doctors. MANY kids grow out (put on visible weight) before they grow UP. Teach them to enjoy food, teach them how to prepare food, that they are amazing the way they are, and yes moving joyfully!

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By: Maike http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435823 Maike Tue, 05 Feb 2013 18:04:11 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435823 I think you are right, Sarah! That is such an important part of it all.
I just sometimes think, growing up and learning that food is something happy and amazing and something you can create together, than it is less likely used to compensate emotional issues. Maybe.
It shouldn’t be something you ever feel guilty about.
Also: it is good when kids learn, as they grow up, they can always eat, when they are hungry and they don’t have to control themselves. The having-to-control-yourself is often the bottom of weight issues. I was a very slim teenager and started to diet just to prove myself I can do it. And I gained weight immediately. Just because eating and not eating suddely seemed to be everything my day was about.

I was also certain about bein very unathletic and that build up to a lot of problems. When I go out and run for 30min these days, that alone solves a ot of my problems. I don’t know how it works, but i does.

I wish I would have learned some of that stuff when I was growing up.

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By: sandy http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435782 sandy Tue, 05 Feb 2013 15:06:27 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435782 Children cannot drive or have money to buy their own food, so an overweight child is a product of her/his parent. If a child is being starved, its child abuse, it should be the same with an obese child.

My only objection to the article mentioned is that she waited till she was 17, she should have been keeping her healthy and at a proper weight all along. My philosophy is, if you don’t want them to eat it, don’t buy it.

I have 3 daughters and sure they have often scoffed at my not letting them eat something, kids get angry anytime you say no to anything they want, so what.

All that pales in the pain a fat child endures, boy or girl. Lets not be in denial, about sports, dating, day at the beach, you don’t have to be rail thin, but obese, that sucks for a kid.

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By: Heather Young http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435781 Heather Young Tue, 05 Feb 2013 15:05:16 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435781 Wow, the world really has done a number on us. We can say all we want that it’s about “health”…no, it’s not. Don’t fool yourself, it’s all about how we look. The side ways glances we give to our children to make sure they look thin enough so we can say we’re doing something” right”, the judgements we give other people who are doing it “wrong”. It’s just all sad. Of all of the wonderful things our bodies do, what they look like is dead last on my list.

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By: Rebecca http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435775 Rebecca Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:32:56 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435775 Kathryn, thanks for bringing up this point. So many people would like to blame parents for the way a child looks, but sometimes there are other issues at play, issues you’d never know just by looking at a family. For instance, my daughter is adopted (which simply means we don’t understand her biological genetics) and has multiple things she struggles with. Gross motors skills and coordination, for one. She doesn’t run around or play like other kids as much as I encourage her to do so. We have to get creative to get enough physical activity. She’s eight years old and very tall, but she’s also heavy. Does this bother me and make me worry for her? Yes it does. But at the end of the day, I do my best to provide good food choices, we talk about being healthy, we talk positively about the state of her heart and how beautiful she is. I hope and pray she has courage to look beyond some physical limitations, both the ones she has and the ones her peers have.

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By: Sophie http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435771 Sophie Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:16:22 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435771 the chances are very likely that she would and will, but it isn’t just about the weight or the food. children at that age are highly ill-equipped to deal with separating “i dislike X about you” from “i dislike you.” unless proven otherwise very strongly in the years to come, this poor little girl may very well feel inadequate and a source of shame to her mother, where she should feel loved and appreciated. these feelings of “what can i do to make her love me” can not only lead to serious issues like body dysmorphia and eating disorders, but depression, anxiety, ocd, and various other extreme mental health diseases.

how do i know? because i was that girl, once upon a time. i still struggle with acknowledging that whatever hells my parents put me through from ages 7-17, they did out of love and concern. but it certainly didn’t feel that way to me.

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By: Joy http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435680 Joy Tue, 05 Feb 2013 03:00:15 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435680 We can all be an agent of change in our own sphere of influence. When I work in my son’s classroom the girls will sweetly say “You look pretty today”, my response is, of course, to say they look pretty in return, but I always add something like “Do you know what I admire more than someone who is pretty? I value someone who is a good friend, or tries their best at whatever they do or shows a spirit of generosity or bravery‚Ķ” These are the messages they need to hear from us. If nothing else, to help combat the media surrounding them, that continually objectifies women.
Also, I regularly tell my kids to go outside and play…and say “no” to soda :)

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By: Alison http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435669 Alison Tue, 05 Feb 2013 01:59:20 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435669 Thank you. There are plenty of thin people that are very unhealthy. Lets have a discussion about healthy blood glucose, blood pressure and cholesterol, instead of only focusing in the numbers on a scale.
I continue to struggle with anorexia and it blows my mind how many people told me I looked great despite the fact I was clearly underweight and unhealthy (missed periods and joint problems). Tell your daughter to do what she loves, it will all fall into place.

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By: Sarah http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435665 Sarah Tue, 05 Feb 2013 01:28:06 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435665 I don’t think weight issues are just about willpower or unhealthy foods. You can eat healthy food and still have issues with portion control or eating out of boredom, anger, sadness, or stress. I think it’s important to get to the bottom of those emotional issues as part of a well-rounded approach to weight management with kids.

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By: becca http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435647 becca Mon, 04 Feb 2013 23:31:37 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435647 I think that it is such a difficult & delicate fine line. We all want HEALTHY and successful and happy children that grow into wonderful adults. Body health is a double edged sword. As an american society we not only uphold an unhealthy model for how our bodies should look, & we also feel like failures when our bodies don’t do or act or look like we want them too. At the same time our appetites for something MORE become insatiable. We want more love, more of life, but we often hold this at arms length because we want to be at the perfect size first. I remarked on this a while back after I saw a young girl in my son’s class put herself down: http://pomegranateandseeds.blogspot.com/2013/01/our-hunger-my-hunger.html
I would love to know what you all think. xxoo

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By: Maike http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435644 Maike Mon, 04 Feb 2013 23:08:32 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435644 I find the only way you get your children into healthy habbits is to celebrate them yourself. And I mean: celebrate. If you don’t enjoy the healthy food and the exercise, why would they?
You can talk all day about it or you can take them on walks or for a swim, a bike tour, in the snow, on the trampolin, playing soccer in the park. All fun things. And very addictive, too.
And there is so much healthy food out there that is really tasty and fun to prepare together.
It should not be about will power.

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By: Elizabeth http://www.designmom.com/2013/02/discussing-weight-and-body-image/comment-page-1/#comment-435626 Elizabeth Mon, 04 Feb 2013 21:44:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=30493#comment-435626 I’ve always worried about this. Both my husband and I were small kids and are still generally small. My husband weighs 135 and is 5’11″. My kids range in age from 2-10 and are all in the small side. My girls are especially tiny (my almost 9 year old still wears size 6 clothing). So being overweight isn’t really much of an issue with my kids, but because they are so tiny it’s easy for them to eat unhealthily And not see the results of it.

We try to be example to the kids of good health by exercising often And eating a generally healthy diet. We have our treats occasionally, but generally we try to eat lots if fruit and veggies, not lots if sugar, lots of whole grains and not many snacks.

I hope we are developing a healthy, maintainable lifestyle for my kids of moderation and lots if fun exercise.

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