Living Well: 4 Secrets To Making Goals & Resolutions You’ll Really Keep

January 17, 2013

By Lindsey Johnson.

Oh, man I love making goals each new year! It feels like a fresh, clean start.

I used to throw out traditional goal-making in favor of one all-encompassing goal: Be Better. And while that seems worthwhile, I never really knew if I had accomplished the goal. When was I finished? When could I mark it off my list? So I decided to take another look at goal-making and found two methods that work really well.

Grab a notebook and pen (Write it down. Make it happen!) and let’s get started.

First up, the S.M.A.R.T. method for setting goals. This method is my favorite because it was really easy to take my goal-setting up a notch by applying this technique. Different people describe each step with slight variations, but this is how I use it.

S stands for Specific.

Making the goal really specific and adding in details really helps with keeping the goal.

Instead of saying, “I want to eat healthier this year,” I might say, “I want to eat the recommended servings of fruits and vegetables every day,” or “I want to eat leafy greens four times a week.” From there, I’ll write in detail how I plan to accomplish that. To eat more veggies and fruit, I might decide to join a local CSA or co-op, or I might decide to plant a garden.

M stands for Measurable.

Measuring goals on a regular basis will help keep you on track. This may include making a check mark on a calendar, or using an app or an online calendar. For my healthy eating goal, maybe I would do something fun like draw a carrot or leaf of kale on every day that I reached my goal.

Secret #1: It may seem like you don’t have much to measure, but doing something simple, like drawing a little carrot on the calendar on the days you eat your vegetables, turns out to be incredibly motivating. So whatever the goal is, find some way to measure it and acknowledge it daily.

A stands for Attainable or Achievable.

Setting unrealistic goals leads to failure. Take things one step at a time. If you absolutely hate vegetables and aren’t in the habit of buying them or cooking them on a regular basis, you are going to have a hard time meeting a goal like eating 5-7 servings of vegetables each day. Instead, start with biting off a tiny bit of the bigger goal. For example, you could try buying one new vegetable each week and learning how to prepare it. Then, work up to the 5-7 servings a day.

If you have a goal to climb Everest, it probably won’t happen in the next few weeks unless you’ve been training for months and months already. This doesn’t mean you need to choose only goals that are easily achieved. Keep a good balance of a few hard ones and some that are easier to reach. Be realistic. Which leads me to the Rs.

R stands for Review, Revise, and Reward.

Review your goals often. Check in daily or weekly to see how you are doing. If you’re having trouble with a particular goal, modify it a bit. Don’t feel like a failure, simply realize that you might not have been as realistic as you thought. Revise when needed. It’s totally okay! Secret #2: Flexibility is key to keeping your goals. The more rigid you feel about a goal, especially a challenging goal, the less likely you’ll keep it.

Reward is my favorite part. For our healthy eating goal, the reward might be a fancy dessert on Sunday (I do this), or a piece of really good chocolate (I do this too), or it could be something not food-related, like watching your favorite television show, seeing a movie, spending an afternoon shopping with a friend. Whatever you think would be a great reward for meeting your goal.

T stands for Timetable or Timely.

Having a timetable is another essential for successful goal-making and keeping. My general goal of “Be Better” had no timetable. Be better when? Today? Next week? On December 31st? Make the timetable specific too. In regards to healthier eating, the timetable might say, “By the summer I will work up to eating the recommended servings of fruits and vegetables.”

If the S.M.A.R.T. method isn’t appealing to you, I’ve got another one to recommend. It works well because there isn’t anything to remember that you didn’t learn already in grade school. It’s based on the basic journalism questions: Who, What, When, Where, Why, How?

For this example, let’s say we’ve made the goal to go on a fun family vacation.


Who is involved in this goal? The whole family — Mom, Dad, kids, and maybe even Grandma and Grandpa.


What is your goal? A family vacation.

Also, what do you need to complete your goal? Make a list: passports, airline tickets, hotel reservations, advance tickets for concerts, time off work, etc.


Again, a timetable is important! When are you going to take your vacation? Set deadlines to help you get ready for your vacation. When will you have the money saved up? What time of year is the best time to travel to your destination? When do you need to get passports and buy airline tickets, and make hotel reservations and other arrangements? Keep track on a calendar. Is this something you’ll be able to do in a few months, or will it take a few years?


Europe? Disney World? Bali? Costa Rica? Cross-country road trip? Where do you need to go to make your travel arrangements? Where do you need to go to get passport pictures, etc?


Why do you want to do this thing? To have fun and make memories together as a family! See relatives who live far away. Immerse yourself in history and another culture.


Make a detailed list of the resources you’ll need to complete your goal and decide how you’ll accomplish each thing. Maybe it’s going to take a few years to save up the money. How will you change things in your day-to-day to save money? Does that mean giving up your daily stop at Starbucks? Will you take on a few extra freelance jobs to earn a bit more? You get the idea.

Secret #3: The trick to the How part of this is making sure the steps you write down are very detailed, very small, and easy to check off. Seeing the progress and forward movement — even tiny movements — will help keep you motivated.

Still need more help? Here is one more practice known for aiding the accomplishment of goals:

Secret #4: Enlist the help of friends. Start or join a Facebook or Google+ group or in-real-life group with people who have a common goal. Commiserate about how horrible turnip greens taste in your morning smoothie, or high-five about how good it felt when you ran your 8 1/2 minute mile. Cheer each other on. You don’t even have to have the same goal, just have someone you can check in with and do the same for them.

I hope these secrets have helped you get excited about keeping your goals and resolutions this year! And if you have any tips to add to my list, I’d love to hear them.

P.S. — Looking for more Secrets To Living Well?  You can see the whole series here.

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1 Liv January 17, 2013 at 8:12 am

About two weeks ago, I heard this statement, the key to discipline is desire. It’s so simple, but so profound. The more we desire something (accomplishing goals and change) the more we will work for it. I’ve already seen growth in certain areas that I have wanted to improve because the desire is growing.


2 Lindsey Johnson (Cafe Johnsonia) January 18, 2013 at 9:19 am

I really love that, Liv, and totally agree with you.


3 Tabitha (From Single to Married) January 17, 2013 at 9:35 am

I’m a firm believer in writing stuff down and being able to check it off a list. But I think I’ll add the “reward” step to my goal list this year – definitely a good idea! Calendars help a ton too, being able to see everything written out, when to do an item, how long I have to do an item, etc., is the key.


4 Kailey January 17, 2013 at 9:53 am

I love this post – definitely bookmarking for future reference! Thank you so much for sharing :)


5 Corrie Anne January 17, 2013 at 10:05 am

Cute notebooks & planners! :)


6 Melanie January 17, 2013 at 10:10 am

I agree with Corrie Anne – cute planners!

Can you link to where you got them?


7 Emily January 17, 2013 at 11:11 am

If exercise is a part of your goal, I have found Runkeeper to be a great resource here. Runkeeper rewards me with communications when I reach various goals, when I set a new pace or a new record for miles run in a week. I didn’t expect it to feel as encouraging as it does but it is great. For instance, when I reached my 100th run last year, Runkeeper sent me an automated email that said: You are a fitness Rockstar. And I was so proud! I never would have known it was my 100th run if I hadn’t been using this app.


8 Jennifer January 17, 2013 at 11:16 am

I am distracted by the wonderfully cute stationery!


9 Kelly January 17, 2013 at 12:06 pm

I’m with Jennifer – so cute! I think I get more excited about the idea of tracking goals than actually achieving them.


10 Zoua January 17, 2013 at 1:06 pm

Where can I buy that planner?


11 mau January 17, 2013 at 3:09 pm

Great tips! I also am dying to get my hands on a planner like those! Where are they from?


12 Lindsey Johnson January 17, 2013 at 5:34 pm

Thanks everyone for your comments! The planner and notebooks are from the Martha Stewart line from Avery at Staples. I am so in love with the day planner and notebooks.


13 Mara January 18, 2013 at 12:24 pm

How about the table/desk they’re photographed on? I love it! What is it?
P.S. I loved this post!


14 Nicola January 22, 2013 at 1:26 pm

I looove your pictures. They felt like nourishment to my soul. This was the first time, I came upon your blog, but I will definitely check it out more. Also, will be looking for clues how you let your creativity flow out of you with 6 in tow. I only have 5, and I have necglected, what makes me me. This is one of my plans for this year: Giving life back to myself . Looking forward to exploring.


15 Debi April 30, 2013 at 5:05 pm

Martha Stewart and Staples for the binders & planners??? Color me confused. At the top of your page (upper right) you said you live in the French countryside. Wouldn’t that be France? I’ve also noticed a lot of the products you display on other pages are certainly not germane to Europe. Did you move stateside? Or possibly have you been living in one of the prominently still French speaking areas of Canada – maybe Quebec? I’m just confused by the “live in the French countryside”. :)


16 Alice January 3, 2014 at 5:16 am

I love the stationery pictures in the post. I have 3 New Year resolutions , wish me luck!


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