Comments on: What You Leave Behind http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Sat, 29 Nov 2014 10:44:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: ebb & flow :: fabulous finds & divine designs » Weekend Wrap Up. 12.16 http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-422930 ebb & flow :: fabulous finds & divine designs » Weekend Wrap Up. 12.16 Sun, 16 Dec 2012 18:29:53 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-422930 [...] • What you leave behind. [...]

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By: Lisa | Happy By http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-418935 Lisa | Happy By Sun, 09 Dec 2012 02:52:41 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-418935 Considering how much emotionally attached I am to stuff and memories and how much I love giving gifts and surprising people, I guess I’d do the same if I felt my end is coming. It takes great courage and a heart full of kindness and altruism to do this though. What a wonderful thing to do for your loved ones and also for yourself, a sure way to be remembered for a long time even if you are not amongst them. This post bring tears and smile in my eyes at the same time :)

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By: Kari http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417787 Kari Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:21:08 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417787 What a wonderful story! I love that she left behind little trinkets for her loved ones to come across.

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By: Jennifer http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417762 Jennifer Thu, 06 Dec 2012 12:03:50 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417762 Lovely!

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By: Arika http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417721 Arika Thu, 06 Dec 2012 08:23:04 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417721 This story made me smile. And I think you got more than curls from her! You look very similar!

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By: Melissa@Julia's Bookbag http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417705 Melissa@Julia's Bookbag Thu, 06 Dec 2012 07:04:51 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417705 What a family resemblance! For a second, I thought it was a retro-style picture of you or Jordan!

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By: Lisa http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417699 Lisa Thu, 06 Dec 2012 06:34:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417699 What a beautiful thing to do … thank you for sharing this!

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By: Anneliese http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417692 Anneliese Thu, 06 Dec 2012 06:21:11 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417692 I love your wishes! To be well long enough to organize it all for smiling. What a sweet story. I am a little obsessed with family geneaology right now…we have a Grandma Lucille too…and I love thinking about what genes have come through the different generations.

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By: Miss Lindsey D http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417603 Miss Lindsey D Thu, 06 Dec 2012 02:45:31 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417603 This really really touched me. I unfortunately had to go through my Mom’s belongings not too long ago and taken at a young age she’d had no time to prepare. The thing that got me through was laughing at some of the silly things she kept, like an entire drawer of nylons, and being touched by how many things I’d given her that she saved. I love the idea of making what can be such a tough task a little bit brighter for those you love. I think the whole thing is so beautiful, to still make them smile!

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By: Amber, theAmberShow http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417582 Amber, theAmberShow Thu, 06 Dec 2012 02:16:19 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417582 June looks just like her!

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By: smee http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417485 smee Wed, 05 Dec 2012 23:48:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417485 My Dad just passed away a few months ago. As I stayed with him the last few months I gained tremendous blessings, forgiveness, compassion, some too sacred to mention, and above all else a true belief in an afterlife. He had been unable to communicate for a few weeks, two days before he passed, he awoke to find me at the foot of his bed and gave me a look that I completely understood, I just looked back at him and said, “I got it dad, I understand.” He fell back asleep. The day before he passed I watched as he woke up, still unable to communicate and seemingly looking through anyone who was in the room. However those moments when he awoke, he would look about three feet above the foot of the bed, then, as if completely surprised, he would reach out in front of himself, smile as big as I’d ever seen him smile and almost giggle, arms raised for a few minutes until he would sleep again. He did this about every 20 minutes or so for hours, always waking to such a happy surprise. *I* believe he was being greeted by folks he hadn’t seen in years. Call me kooky, but it’s totally what it felt like to me.

His illness was sudden and his death came over a four month period, fast and unannounced. Going through his things, and my mothers, has been bitter sweet, so many things I wish I could have asked.

So, because of this experience, my husband I have talked considerably about what we wish, choose, and just how to go about our exit. I do not fear death at all after being with my dad during his. So for me, I want to make it as pleasant and simple an experience as I can for my children. I plan on giving them my things early, so I can watch them enjoy whatever.

Life after death? sure. Life before death- count on it!

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By: Pinoncoffee http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417477 Pinoncoffee Wed, 05 Dec 2012 23:39:21 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417477 I love these stories about awesome grandmas. I hope to be one someday. :-) It’s really precious to hear about people dying well.

On a more prosaic note, before you start tagging things for your heirs, you ought to clear it with your estate lawyer. Depending on your state’s laws, that could mess up probate and leave a big legal fight for your kids to deal with – yikes! And while I’m on the subject, friends don’t let friends use will forms off the internet. Just… no.

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By: Nicole http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417417 Nicole Wed, 05 Dec 2012 22:24:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417417 I love this.
But reading through the comments above I thought it important to remind everyone “don’t wait”. I was in a terrible car crash almost 5 years ago and it definitely woke me up. The old are not the only ones who die.
Tell everyone you love “I love you”. Tell everyone you’ve wronged “I’m sorry”. Make every day your best, because you are not guaranteed tomorrow.

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By: amberlee http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417412 amberlee Wed, 05 Dec 2012 22:17:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417412 reading this completely made my day. what a lovely woman and what a wonderful thing to do.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417392 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:52:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417392 I would have cried too!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417391 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:51:48 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417391 That is fascinating, Jess! Those are crazy numbers. I’m glad things have improved. : )

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417390 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:50:45 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417390 This story made me a bit weepy. So sweet!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417388 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:49:54 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417388 Oh my goodness. That has my imagination spinning.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417387 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:47:46 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417387 What a treasure, Aimee! I’m sure your heart skipped a beat at the discovery.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/12/what-you-leave-behind/comment-page-1/#comment-417386 Design Mom Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:47:05 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27809#comment-417386 Thank you so much for this comment. I think I love your grandmother.

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