Comments on: A Few Things http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Wed, 06 Aug 2014 12:09:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416372 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:42:20 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416372 I kept thinking of BYU, and that if she wanted to, she could find a large sample of BYU grads who married early and had kids by 25. It’s less common there than it was 20 years ago, but it’s still surprisingly common.

There are thousands and thousands of Mormon women who left (or didn’t start) careers to raise children and have empty nests by 45 or so. They don’t fit her profile exactly, because it’s not the norm to marry a spouse whose a decade older, but they might make a good case study.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416371 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:34:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416371 How fun, Kimberly! Sounds like you made the most of your time in Paris.

If it helps, we’ve been on the London Eye twice, we bought our tix from the vendors selling the Big Bus tickets. You still have to wait in a little line at the actual wheel, but it’s not too long.

I think it would be amazing to go to the London Eye with a few families — enough to fill a carriage. (I think each carriage fits about 20 people.) And then bring a picnic meal. It takes about an hour to go around, and it would be fun to have a meal with friends as you enjoy the views. You could even bring a table cloth and use the big bench in the center as a table.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416369 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:31:23 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416369 Isn’t that a great link?

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416368 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:30:52 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416368 Yes, I’m actually supportive of Penelope’s stance in other articles where she advocates for more flexible, part-time working conditions for parents. Flexible work schedules have been, by far, the best thing that happened to our family. I rate flexible work schedules twice as important as pay rate. Maybe even more.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416367 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:28:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416367 “You do what you have to do for you to have a healthy and productive life, whether that means having a baby at 25 or 40, or not at all.”

Love that, Emme. I think this is definitely how life has played out for me.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416366 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:27:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416366 Good idea with the permanent marker, Misty!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416365 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:26:21 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416365 I feel grateful for advent calendars. They help reassure me that I’m no missing the season. We skip the treats and fill our advent calendar with simple activities that we want to be sure to do during the holidays. Things like read Gift of the Magi. Or have hot cocoa with a candy cane stirrer. Or drive down main street to look at Christmas lights.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416364 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:23:29 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416364 I don’t read Penelope’s blog regularly, but sometimes an article catches my eye! One thing about her: she has Asberger’s Syndrome (which she writes about openly, and some of the challenges that come with it — even talking about her sex life). The Asberger’s brings an honestly and unfiltered bluntness to her writing that can be jarring at times. In this case, the article may have been partly a firebomb, and may also be partly her way of sharing the exact thoughts she’s having.

In my case, the article caught my eye because I DID marry young, and had babies early (thought I kept having them into my 30′s so I won’t have an empty house at 45), and when I was in the thick of it during my 20′s I used to daydream about being in my early 40′s, my 3 babies (at the time) in college or beyond, and reinventing myself.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416363 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:17:03 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416363 I especially like the second paragraph of your comment. Particularly this: “You can invent a whole new way of being a family. The traditional ways (in my experience) always create a great amount of frustration on both sides.”

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416362 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:15:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416362 So glad you liked the list, Melissa. And glad you’re feeling better!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416361 Design Mom Tue, 04 Dec 2012 11:14:49 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416361 I think so too! Charming as can be.

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By: Jillian http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416182 Jillian Tue, 04 Dec 2012 01:55:42 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416182 Thank you. I very much agree Elizabeth. I found the article and the especially the author’s comments quite horrific. Great topic to discuss, but real science and nuances are much needed. “Brain Storm: The Science of Sex Differences” by Rebecca M. Jordan-Young is an excellent scholarly literary review of all the studies on the brain + gender differences. Extremely thorough, it dispels the faulty scientific methods of many of the studies that “proved” certain sex differences, and explains how society ran away with them. In the end, she shows that the science shows that men and women are much more alike than they are different. Really, really good read!

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By: Kimberly http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-416112 Kimberly Tue, 04 Dec 2012 00:11:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-416112 Wow, feeling connected with this post…we went on the Ferris Wheek ourselves this weekend when we took our two girls on their first trip to Paris. We now live in London and have not made it o The London Eye, but somehow it was a must do in Paris. Last week our family made your Pom bookmarks for our schools holiday bazaar to raise money for a children’s hospital. Thanks for sharing ideas and activities.

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By: Jen @ RamblingRenovators http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415771 Jen @ RamblingRenovators Mon, 03 Dec 2012 14:41:45 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415771 Our Advent activity today is “make an ornament” and the glitter animals are just what I was looking for! Thanks for sharing the link.

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By: Melissa S http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415744 Melissa S Mon, 03 Dec 2012 08:09:48 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415744 I have used the safety tattoos at theme parks before and my kids like them, so why not? I think they are great.

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By: A Day in May Design http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415713 A Day in May Design Mon, 03 Dec 2012 02:40:54 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415713 Love the idea of doing service with your family. What a great way to spend the holidays together while giving back!

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By: Geevz http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415687 Geevz Sun, 02 Dec 2012 20:15:54 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415687 I enjoyed the Penelope Trunk article, not because I agreed necessarily but because all the link jumping brought me to some fantastic other articles and conversations. Most particularly this one in the Atlantic
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/1/

I also liked one of Penelope Trunk’s other articles on how the conversation should be changing to how workplaces can support marriages.

Thanks for posting the link!

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By: SunnyDay http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415595 SunnyDay Sat, 01 Dec 2012 18:24:34 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415595 I am completely shocked and couldn’t disagree more with the article! I work 80hs and so does my husband and we have managed to be with our small children (3!) . It’s not easy, but we can find balance, if your significant other understands that raising children and having a home is a full time job to both of you! What about younger women should be looking for a husband and marry older guys? Oh, while we are at it: he should be taller too, it’s unacceptable to a woman to marry a shorter guy! God protect us from this narrow-minded people!

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By: Emme http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415591 Emme Sat, 01 Dec 2012 16:48:52 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415591 In re Penelope Trunk — I used to love work-life-balance articles because it was exciting that people were talking about it more, but now it just seems to be this constant conversation.

To me, every person, every life, every job is different. You do what you have to do for you to have a healthy and productive life, whether that means having a baby at 25 or 40, or not at all.

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By: jyl from @momitforward http://www.designmom.com/2012/11/a-few-things-141/comment-page-1/#comment-415586 jyl from @momitforward Sat, 01 Dec 2012 16:04:53 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=27257#comment-415586 Thanks for the shout out, Gabby!

Also, what a fabulous list! Always love visiting your site.

Happy December!

xoxo

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