Comments on: Happily Ever Chatter Series: Surprises http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Thu, 11 Sep 2014 17:09:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: beka http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-861444 beka Thu, 06 Mar 2014 21:02:46 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-861444 Gabrielle! I know this post is from almost 2 years ago but I was trolling your site for some ideas for a wedding anniversary. For some reason, the first site I thought of was yours. We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in August and after going through a rocky two years, it feels like this anniversary is a milestone we should really celebrate. Fortunately and unfortunately, I’m also expecting a baby in mid-July so a mini-vacation is kind of out-of-the-picture. I’ve been trying to find a thoughtful way to celebrate since I have so much time before our anniversary… something I could work on until August. Do you have any genius suggestions??? Thank you!!!

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By: Rosa @ FlutterFlutter http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368560 Rosa @ FlutterFlutter Sat, 14 Jul 2012 00:20:10 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368560 Before kids my hubby used to surprise me all the time. My favorite surprise ever was when I was working in a Vancouver design firm and he had called the boss to let him know that he was coming to surprise me and take me away. I had NO idea. He called me to say that he was out front of my office to say hi and catch a quick kiss, and when I got outside he handed me a basket full of my favorite magazines, a pain au chocolate, and a mocha. All items that I would need for a ferry ride to the island for a weekend at the spa. Not bad hey?! ;) He’s a keeper.

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By: Hannah http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368547 Hannah Fri, 13 Jul 2012 15:01:06 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368547 My husband and I have a running wish list on our computer, and a list of gift websites on Safari. That way we can access each other’s lists without the other person knowing. We’re also not as much into giving gifts for Valentine’s Day or our anniversary – we’d rather go out instead! But it makes birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, and Father’s Day a lot easier:)

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By: Lori C. http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368516 Lori C. Thu, 12 Jul 2012 20:39:15 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368516 I spotted this today and thought of your “gift fail.” Maybe he would enjoy this…http://digitalgallery.nypl.org/nypldigital/dgkeysearchdetail.cfm?trg=1&strucID=1020198&imageID=1543275&parent_id=1020186&word=&snum=&s=&notword=&d=&c=&f=&k=0&sScope=&sLevel=&sLabel=&sort=&total=220&num=0&imgs=20&pNum=&pos=12.

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By: Ann http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368422 Ann Wed, 11 Jul 2012 18:13:25 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368422 This trailer made me laugh. I love these two actors sooooo much! Can’t wait to see this. We stopped giving gifts a long time ago too. We made it to 21 this year. Congrats on yours. We usually pick a concert to go to. This year it was David Gray. His music just touches us both and reminds us of so many milestones we have accomplished together.

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By: Chi@106 http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368406 Chi@106 Wed, 11 Jul 2012 14:52:59 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368406 Giving gifts that “bomb” early on in a relationship (and occasionally ever after!) is all part of the process of getting to know what your spouse likes, don’t you agree? :)

I discovered an online wishlist site (Wishpot) last year and I’ve squirreled away so much stuff there that I was genuinely pleasantly surprised when my husband bought me a pocket watch that I’d had on it for a while.

P.S. Hope Springs looks like a funny, heartwarming film – great for a quiet date night in. I love Meryl Streep, too.

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By: Karina Hotard http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368401 Karina Hotard Wed, 11 Jul 2012 13:51:35 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368401 I like the idea of wishlists. Yes, it would be so romantic to know exactly the other would want and surprise them with it, but the truth is, it rarely happens. Plus, we live in a time where we already have so much, so what is the extra special thing? We typically decide to do things (go to a show etc.. or go out for an amazing dinner at a great restaurant.

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By: jen http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368393 jen Wed, 11 Jul 2012 11:33:18 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368393 love this! our anniversary is coming up in august and i know we would do something silly like get apple tv or something. maybe we should make it a date and go see this together…..

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By: Megan Flowers http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368375 Megan Flowers Wed, 11 Jul 2012 04:21:05 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368375 We stick with the traditional gift. Last year was iron so we got a Le Creuset Dutch oven. I’m sure my husband was thrilled! He eats the gift of the meals I cook him with it! Ha!
For our 3 year which is flowers we took our son who was 2 months old to his first outting to our favorite botanical garden.
This year is brass. I’m thinking of a date night at the Hollywood Bowl to see a jazz band.

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By: Lisa http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368359 Lisa Wed, 11 Jul 2012 00:23:32 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368359 I can’t wait for the movie to come out! It seems so funny.

My husband and I are like you completely, un-romantic when it comes to our gifts. Although, I do try and surprise him every now and again with the little things. But when it comes to big things, we definitely talk about it first. I even picked out my engagement ring and I don’t regret it. My husband is an engineer and so sometimes he just has no idea on what I would want. Why not make it easier on him?

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By: Nutmegg http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368356 Nutmegg Tue, 10 Jul 2012 23:14:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368356 We always do a super-silly riff on whatever the “traditional” gift is, like a bottle of iron tablets for our 6th anniversary. For our first, which was paper, I gave him several of the notebooks he likes with little love notes sprinkled in them, and for our 10th (last year–diamond and tin) I crocheted a beer can hat with diamond shaped insets.

I don’t know how we got started on it, but we kind of came up with it at the same time, and just try to have fun with it.

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By: Raquel Goldman http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368349 Raquel Goldman Tue, 10 Jul 2012 21:20:27 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368349 Hi!

We recently had our 12th anniversary and not really into gifts. The night before he had taken the kids to the Golden Gate Fortune Cookie Factory and purchased a bag of cookies. When they came home they were all cracking open cookies and he handed me one. Imagine my surprise when I broke it open to see his handwriting with a simple ‘I love you’ on the fortune. The bonus? He didn’t even realize our anniversary was the next day :)

Raquel :)

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By: Jenny http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368343 Jenny Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:09:34 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368343 My husband and I are celebrating our two year anniversary today! We’re going to dinner at our favorite pub and catching a movie to celebrate today, because we decided together weeks ago to splurge on an Outstanding In The Field dinner together as our gift to each other. It’s happening in Lafayette, CO in a couple of weeks and I can’t wait! We’re both very pragmatic when it comes to gift giving; we’d both rather have something useful or share something super special, than to try guessing.

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By: Daffodil http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368341 Daffodil Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:00:55 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368341 My husband and I don’t do any anniversary gifting — just a babysitter and dinner (gift enough, if you ask me!).

For Christmas, we buy ourselves a big gift. One year it was a chair for the living room, another year it was an iPod with the sound dock, once it was even a vacation.

Our birthdays fall about a month apart, and the first one is about five weeks after Christmas. We will usually ask what the other wants, but this year, neither of us wanted anything, so we did another Big Gift To Share, a la Christmas.

Oh sure, some birthday or anniversary or Christmas down the road, I would love to have a little tiny box with a little something sparkly in it, but I much prefer this style of giving. It allows us to think bigger and get something we’ll both use/enjoy about the same amount, which is great when you’re the one in the relationship who’s worse at figuring out good gifts. Way less guilt that way. :)

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By: Lauren http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368340 Lauren Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:48:05 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368340 We mostly plan gifts together too. We share a car, so to get a surprise gift for one another involves one party going out in the evening or on the weekend without the other, and we’d rather just spend that time together! We often choose an “experience” gift over a physical gift and are always thrilled to have the happy memories instead of something else to clutter the house :)

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By: Danielle Cococcia http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368338 Danielle Cococcia Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:40:09 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368338 One year my husband gave me a gift certificate for a cleaning at the dentist. Seriously. I hate going (which he knows) and he thought this would motivate me…sweet thought, but definitely topped the charts for worst gift ever. =-)

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By: se7en http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368337 se7en Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:27:07 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368337 We have given up on “event gifts,” the stress of finding the perfect gift and then keeping a secret from each was just not a marriage builder!!! So we do spontaneous gifts whenever, they tend to be small and just “I love you” consumables. Larger items we are both so opinionated about we have to check with each other first!!!

I can say that I am abysmally bad at remembering the poor man’s birthday and for the first ten years of marriage I was a day out either way each year… we were both students and the budget was always tight… I had huge creative plans of gifts to make for him that always totally bombed… After ten years of marriage we did renovations and at the same time I bought him a top of the range awesome coffee machine ( it slid in alongside the washing machine, dishwasher etc) – renovation expenses!!! Anyway I always claim that gift was to make up for all the gift-fails and will have to last for all future birthdays too… Nearly ten years later and he is still thrilled with his coffee machine!!! One winning gift in a lifetime – I can’t hope to achieve more!!!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368308 Design Mom Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:02:19 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368308 I love when we decide on an outing or an adventure instead of giving each other objects. It’s definitely my preferred way to celebrate!

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368307 Design Mom Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:01:07 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368307 Your $35 limit is so smart! Working with constraints brings out the creativity.

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By: Design Mom http://www.designmom.com/2012/07/surprises/comment-page-1/#comment-368306 Design Mom Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:00:31 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=20982#comment-368306 I hear you. It’s all about expectations — I think that’s why making requests works for some couples. : )

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