Comments on: Being Alone

By: Christine Macdonald

Christine Macdonald — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 06:34:05 +0000

What a delicious reminder that solitude doesn’t need to be tragic. “Alone” doesn’t need to be lonely. Break it in two, and the word almost reads as “All” “One”.

I am a single, 43 year old woman with no children. Do I get lonely at times? Absolutely. Am I happy I walked away from people who weren’t right for me? Yes.

What a lovely video and post.

Thank you.

By: Darcy

Darcy — Sun, 15 Jul 2012 16:00:34 +0000

I don’t necessarily seek alone time…but when I get it I L-O-V-E it!! I have one child who seeks alone time. My eldest son will take himself to his room, close the door, and play quietly by himself for an hour(s) depending how much he hasn’t had and how long he can get away with it. I like to have alone time at home if I can (seeing a movie alone would be dreamy but NEVER happens) I sit with a magazine(s) or give myself a pedicure or sometimes I just sit and stare and listen to the silence and make lists/dream. Ahhh….to be alone.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Thu, 12 Jul 2012 08:12:45 +0000

I explain it to my daughter like this “We all need different times with people– Daddy daughter time, mommy-daughter time, (We do one-on-ones with our kids) daddy-mommy time and just mommy alone time” Explaining that all of these are needs has helped her, being a very social person, evaluate her own needs and she has requested “alone” time every once in awhile from her younger sister and brother and I have tried to respect those few times by letting her shut herself in her and her sister’s shared room, alone. Because I do it– albeit I do it at Barnes and Noble in their cookbook or gardening section. This has also helped her with date nights not being sad when we go out without her, cuz she recognizes that she likes that one-on-one time too.

By: tn

tn — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 15:21:30 +0000

Oh my how I wish I had some alone time!

I will this fall my son starts maternelle (french preschool) and my little miss starts 2 mornings at garderie (daycare)!! I will have time to keep the house clean and craft :-)

By: the emily

the emily — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 15:12:51 +0000

I go to movies alone, simply for the time away from kids and quietness–and air conditioning. We don’t have any. But since moving to Gallup (New Mexico) last year, I’ve been to 5 movies by myself, and every single time I’ve run into friends there. That’s the good thing about a small town. But when I saw Brave alone last week and my friend said “Come sit by us!” I turned her down. It had been one of those days and I was afraid I couldn’t be nice. :)

By: Heather B.

Heather B. — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 14:39:18 +0000

I am pretty much always alone – I vacation by myself, go out to eat by myself, go to the movies by myself, etc. And many people find it weird. It helps that I live in a town where I don’t have many friends. I don’t mind it so much and it’s nice that I can force myself to be social on very specific times/dates and then go back to being alone.

I was going to continue in this comment but a) I have a blog of my own. ;-) and b) It makes me look like the saddest person on the planet! But I swear it totally works for me.

By: Shawna Greenway

Shawna Greenway — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 14:05:37 +0000

I love going to movies alone so I can get completely lost in the film and not worry about someone talking to me about something that just happened or telling me they need more soda, popcorn or a trip to the bathroom. But eating alone makes me very sad because I grew up with food being such a communal event, not something you did alone. Even now, if I’m by myself in the house at lunch time (a rare occasion), I make the dog or cat come near the table. Oh, that sounds really odd, doesn’t it? LOL

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 13:31:46 +0000

I really enjoyed it – definitely worth seeing. (Bottle Rocket is still my favorite.)

By: Annie

Annie — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 05:06:44 +0000

I love going to the movies by myself! My husband is a huge BYU football fan and watches every game. I don’t watch football at all. So we’ve worked out this deal where he keeps the kids home with him to indoctrinate them into the ways of BYU football while I go to a movie by myself every Saturday during the season. It’s a fantastic deal for both of us. We’ve been doing it for years and I now look forward to football season because of it.

By: Kristy

Kristy — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 21:22:11 +0000

Alone time! For the longest time people have been telling me to get a running partner, but I just love being outside by myself, just a person, not a mother or neighbor or wife for an hour (though I adore those roles), listening to a book on my iPod, no expectations on me other than to put one foot in front of the other. I read this book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking and it really validated that need I have to recharge alone so I can be on my best game the rest of the time!

And goodness sakes, I’m so bummed I’ve had no Blair family sightings the past little while you’ve been in Provo! Come say hi any time you like! (And did you see the Islamic art exhibit at the MOA? Whoa.)

By: Azra

Azra — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 21:22:00 +0000

I love both a photo and a video. Since I got my children, I crave to be on my own. I need piece and quite and really have no need to socialize. :)
Imagine going dancing by yourself… I don’t think I would ever be able to do it.

My older son can’t stand to be alone or to do anything on his own. It drives me crazy and worries me. I wish I knew how to teach him this very important skill.

That is great that you got some time for yourself. :)

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:25:18 +0000

I lived alone (for the first and only time) when I was 26 and now look back on that time as one of the best periods of my life. Now that I am married and the mother of two young boys, my alone time is precious. On a daily basis, I try to find sometime to read. My office will usually let us out early the day before a holiday, so I take advantage of that and go see a movie by myself. I have also started a tradition of celebrating my birthday alone at the spa. I hope I can one day get the courage to travel alone. I love being a wife and a mother, but sometimes I just need to do whatever it is that pleases my heart and soul.

By: Melissa de la Fuente

Melissa de la Fuente — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:16:23 +0000

Oh for sure…I often crave alone time. Every day pretty much….especially in the bath, with a really great book! :) It is so valuable…..I wonder what I did all the time before kids? No idea!
xo
Melis

By: joanne

joanne — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 20:06:06 +0000

the only only time i get currently is when i go to the grocery store or target by myself at night, when my husband is at home to watch the kids. errands are my luxury. but when i was in college i took a film as art class, and we were required to see at least two movies at our university’s “international cinema” every week. i had to go by myself because i had to fit them into my crammed schedule, and i couldn’t really plan for any of my friends or roommates to be there too. some of the best experiences of my young life happened in that movie theater, watching “the bicycle thief” and “the scent of green papaya” and “pather panchali” and dozens of other movies that changed the way i see the world forever. and that all happened as i sat there by myself.

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:20:40 +0000

Wow, Jess. What kind words! Thank you. You made my day!

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:20:05 +0000

Have an amazing trip, Sally!

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:19:36 +0000

Hah! I absolutely know that feeling.

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:19:08 +0000

How was Moonrise Kingdom? It’s on my list!

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:18:35 +0000

I love knowing about your park conversation. Made me happy.

By: Design Mom

Design Mom — Tue, 10 Jul 2012 19:17:52 +0000

Yes! Being in the house alone can feel like such a luxury.