Comments on: All Made Up, One More Time The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Thu, 05 Mar 2015 12:54:34 +0000 hourly 1 By: Meagan Meagan Sat, 28 Sep 2013 04:55:12 +0000 I completely felt that when I was in middle/high school. I would’t even paint my nails or wear dresses even though I really wanted to. I started wearing makeup and being girly AFTER I felt pretty.

By: britta britta Wed, 14 Nov 2012 02:21:45 +0000 I do enjoy getting dressed up and looking nice, but I find I feel self conscious that I am over-dressed when whoever I am with is in much more casual clothes, hair and make-up. And then again, if I go more casual and someone else dresses up then I wish I had something nice to change into!

By: Chrissy Chrissy Sat, 20 Oct 2012 01:36:04 +0000 My three boys are the same way. They have a crush on me as the first woman in their life that loves them and so my beauty is a big deal to them. But it is the simplest things that are beautiful in their eyes…just like with their daddy. The tree and his three apples. They love that my hair curls in thick ringlets. They love it when I wear jewelry and dresses and cute shoes. They love it when I put on makeup…which is very rare.
As for the wearing makeup thing…I have always felt confident with a bare face, partly due to having good skin and partly due to having very pink and cream skin tones and very dark hair, lashes and brows…I already feel sort of like nature made me up. My face is pretty bold…strong bones, angular, dramatic coloring. Makeup, even professionally done in a beautiful and subtle way, seems like overkill. I do feel better when I don’t forget my moisturizer, though. :)
And beauty as a risk…yes, it is. Someone might look at me and have an opinion no matter what I do or do not do. Life is a risk. I do not consider myself beautiful, particularly…except in the eyes of those that love me. I always feel beautiful to them and it is great. No risk there!

By: MAC, MAWCampbell MAC, MAWCampbell Wed, 10 Oct 2012 09:39:09 +0000 I found your page on BYU Alimni. I don’t know your story but it is so nice to hear what you have to say. You have a way with words & it is inspiring to me.
Growing up I would not have left the House without being done up. I would run at night so that I would not be seen. I had an early Morning Job that I chose to go an hour early to so no one would see me before I was ready. That was then & 6 kids later, I walked out my front door today without even a curl in my hair. Never really feeling ready.
I was glad to read about your blog because it helped me look at life through different eyes & know that there is more to my story.
It is funny how a few words can help you.
{When life seems hard start by putting on a smile.} {or help someone find theirs}
People help one another step out of there box into the light & see there is so much more that can be done.

By: Michelle Michelle Thu, 24 May 2012 23:29:19 +0000 I love this: “If the “risk” of a garment or makeup style is in conflict with those values, then it’s not for me.” What a great way to approach any choice of wardrobe, lifestyle, etc.

By: Michelle Michelle Thu, 24 May 2012 22:12:14 +0000 I like what you said. Trying to look good is riskier than stating that you don’t care.

And that can go two ways. It can be “I don’t care because there are all these other things about me that are worth liking.” or it could be “I don’t want to care because I don’t like what I have to work with.” I’ve seen girls who live both ways. The first set are so much more enjoyable as people because they are confident in who they are. The second can end up being obsessed about how much they don’t like who they are. And that’s no fun to be around.

For me, I think taking the risk is a little pleasure. A little thrill to keep me feeling young and spontaneous. If I worry to much about my makeup or clothes or whatever, then I’ve gone too far. The point should just be that I’m having fun and that’s that. Everyone else can take it or leave it. But for me… it’s a little something that makes me feel alive.

By: Michelle Michelle Thu, 24 May 2012 22:05:45 +0000 Love it! “makeup is like a pair of fun shoes, they don’t determine who you are, they just add to the fun.”
Well said! Thanks for sharing!

By: Michelle Michelle Thu, 24 May 2012 21:48:19 +0000 I love this: “self-esteem isn’t about thinking you’re the cleverest, most beautiful, most perfect, it’s about thinking you’re fantastic enough that NOT being all of those things doesn’t matter.”
Self-esteem is as much about humility as it is confidence. It’s ok not to be the absolute best at everything… because I am still loved for what I am!
Thank you for sharing!

By: Michelle Michelle Thu, 24 May 2012 21:41:50 +0000 I love this discussion! As a young mom of girls I think about things like this all the time. I worry that my wearing makeup will teach my daughters they’re not beautiful as they are. I worry that I’m teaching them to conform to “standards” about beauty set out by some mythical “culture.” I worry about seeming fake. And I worry about making it seem like fake is more desirable than normal. I worry that because I wear makeup they’re going to turn into crazy teenagers who request plastic surgery for graduation presents.
But I also think makeup is fun. And I usually wear makeup whenever I go out. And here’s why. I love makeup. I love the routine. I don’t feel “ready” for the day until I’ve done my makeup. And I go for the whole shebang… primer, foundation, powder, blush, bronzer, eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara.
But the funny thing is that I usually trade off by never doing my hair. As in ever. It’s always thrown back in a messy bun. But I do like to wear pretty clothes and makeup.
In all of my worries I know that this is true: whether I wear makeup or not has no real value. My husband and friends and family all still love me regardless. They love me because I am smart and kind and I love them. The rest is just for fun, so why not? I don’t really do it for anybody but me.
And that is what I want to impress upon my daughters: I will love them if they wear nothing but pajamas for the rest of their lives. I will love them because they have beautiful souls. I will love them because they are sweet and intelligent and wonderful. The rest is just for fun. And girls should have a little fun… in whatever way they want.

By: Adrienne Adrienne Sat, 07 Apr 2012 01:48:06 +0000 Hi Gabby,

This is such a great article! I love makeup, but didn’t start wearing it till my mid-20s – for me while I feel beautiful with it on – it is more a form of self expression and having fun. When I look at fashion magazines I think, that would be SO fun to try. Maybe that is why my hair never is the same for longer than a year and my makeup routine changes so variably. I don’t feel like I am on the quest for beauty, instead I feel like I am exploring uncharted territory. What’s the worst that could happen? Bad hair? Grow it out or dye it a different color. Bad makeup day? Wash it off. To me it is the greatest fun with the least amount of permanence.

I let my daughter play with makeup – she is 5. People that don’t understand me or know me think I’m making her grow up too fast. I like to think of it as a way for her to learn about her face, explore her creativity and gain confidence. Sometimes she walks out to play with black eyes. While it looks hideous, I am happy that she has the confidence to try something out without the beauty fear that is thrown to many influenceable young women (and older women) by magazines and media. I think many people place “makeup” wearing women in the category of vain and prideful women. I think of it as a divine right to be called woman. While my appearance isn’t my main focus in life, its nice to feel feminine and not be discriminated for it.

Right now my makeups routine/bag consists of smokey black kohl and an eyebrow pencil with matte lip gloss, light powder foundation for the winter months. Sometimes I swap out the Kohl for a gold shimmer crayon liner or hop to my bobbi brown rainbow of eyeshadows to mix it up. Next month? Who knows!

By: Angela A Angela A Sun, 18 Dec 2011 21:28:17 +0000 I like your mother-in-law’s advice. I find that on the weekends I get more accomplished and I feel better when I get up and shower and get ready just like on a weekday.

I love wearing and trying new make-up and I love having days when I give my face and hair a break. Make-up and hair done are part of my working uniform. I don’t wear a ton of make-up, but I don’t feel professional without some concealer, powder, and eye make-up.

On weekends or vacations, I am much more relaxed about my hair and make-up just like my wardrobe is more relaxed. For me it is part of my overall look.

By: Lola Lola Sun, 04 Dec 2011 03:17:56 +0000 I like things around me to be beautiful, and I like to make myself more beautiful, too – so I often wear make up, although I don’t have any qualms about quickly popping out to the supermarket without it on. And perhaps I’m being naive, but I don’t think for me it’s a manifestation of low self-esteem at all: self-esteem isn’t about thinking you’re the cleverest, most beautiful, most perfect, it’s about thinking you’re fantastic enough that NOT being all of those things doesn’t matter. Ergo, I don’t have to think I’m a natural Audrey Hepburn (although there are some things I love about my appearance) to be happy with myself.

Oh, and I’m a massive attention seeker – so all those crazy fashion trends and red lipstick? I do :)

By: julia julia Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:11:32 +0000 I have so many thoughts on this topic. I’ll start with this these:
When I was younger (in high school) I never wanted to be a girl who’s makeup you noticed first… and I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t wear makeup until I felt comfortable with my face as-is. At 33 I wear some makeup on most days (mascara, bronzer, lipstick…eyeliner if I don’t have a child tugging on my leg).
It can be risky. For Christmas this year I’m buying myself a red Red lipstick. and I’m going to wear it. Because I finally have the confidence to.

By: A A Tue, 22 Nov 2011 21:53:37 +0000 To tag along with Kate the Great’s post above where she said: “I don’t wear makeup regularly. It’s a conscious choice,” I too consciously don’t wear much makeup. For me, life is just too short to spend the time, money and thought on my appearance. I think this outlook is the reason I have more self-confidence than most women I know, even the ones who are prettier than I am. The amount of energy and worry some friends spend on their appearance sounds exhausting – they find wrinkles where they don’t exist and “flab” on their bodies which objectively is just skin. When I overhear these things, it actually deepens my conviction that I’ve chosen the right mindset for myself. It seems that the more one thinks about one’s appearance, the more one focuses on the flaws? I could be wrong, since I don’t think about it :) Would love to know your opinion on this since it’s an offshoot from the makeup topic.

My mom always preached that the motto for living life is just “Balance”! Find balance and you’ll be happy. For me, that balance includes not spending time on makeup or fashion. But I’m sure that balance lands at a different spot for everyone. I just wish more of us would check in with ourselves to make sure our actions really are taken with a goal of reaching balance. Like Oprah always says, “live life with intention.”

By: Kelli K Kelli K Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:46:50 +0000 Does looking good make you vulnerable! Yes! Especially as a single woman, because if you’re looking your best and you still get rejected, who would want you at all? I like to dress up and look classically feminine, but I hate admiting that I’m doing it to impress. It creates competition.
About makeup- I laughed a bit when I read the first post. I started wearing make up for dance recitals about age 10. I come from a conservative family, so I didn’t wear everyday make up until high school, and very light compared to the trends. Still today, I sometimes feel like I don’t know the middle ground. I know full-blown stage makeup and then nothing. I wonder if I still look a little clownish somedays. That or I look myself in the face after applying my moderate eyeliner and shadow and think, “Why did I just paint over my natural beauty?

By: Heather Heather Tue, 22 Nov 2011 04:59:45 +0000 I’ve always thought that makeup and fashion should enhance who I am (I wear mascara, concealer, eye pencil, and light eye shadow), not cover up or change who I am. I probably got this concept from my mother, though I’m not sure we ever really discussed it; I think I probably learned more from watching her and the way she wore her makeup and hair than anything else. I feel like I’m not being honest to myself if I don’t really look like myself. Maybe that’s because I’m risk-averse, but I think it’s more because I don’t want to be pressured into being something I’m really not just because bright, heavy eyeshadow and huge, bold eyelashes are the current trend. I hope my daughter will understand that makeup is a beauty enhancer, not a beauty creator.

By: Kate The Great Kate The Great Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:38:59 +0000 I’ve thought about this post on and off again all week, trying to figure out my feelings on this topic.

I don’t wear makeup regularly. It’s a conscious choice, and it has to do with the following points:

-my husband thinks I’m gorgeous with or without makeup. He knows that makeup just enhances my beauty, but he really isn’t turned off if I go without it.
-Women who don’t wear makeup nowadays stand out from women who do. Not having it on, among faces in the crowd, makes me appear more honest, more unusual, more innocent, and younger. Since I look young anyway, and since I’m not getting any younger and don’t ever want to use artificial techniques, I’m just in the habit of going without.
-I’m a mom, and right now, I have a little control of when I get up every morning. I prefer a little extra sleep to a little extra beauty. A grouchy but gorgeous mom isn’t as appealing to my kid.
-I have makeup, and when I do use it, it packs more of a punch than if I were to use it every day. Because I use it so rarely, I save money on makeup.

In other words, your everyday face is whatever you choose. I make a clear choice. I’m now off to read the comments of what everyone else said.

By: LH LH Mon, 21 Nov 2011 23:21:48 +0000 Personally I get sorta annoyed that something that is expensive and irritates my skin and eyes is so ubiquitous. I avoid makeup unless I feel etiquette demands it, like at a wedding. I don’t think it’s bad for people to enjoy expressing themselves with makeup, but I do hate that it is so expected. Most days I don’t wear any at all; when I “dress up” I usually do foundation, sparkly eye shadow, and lipgloss. I ocassionally do mascara if I won’t be out long because it bothers my eyes a ton (even good brands like Clinique). I never wear eyeliner-I did once earlier in our marriage and my husband said I looked like a racoon and he thinks I’m much prettier with no makeup :)

By: Danielle Danielle Mon, 21 Nov 2011 23:12:48 +0000 Like so many others have said, this is a really interesting subject! I wear makeup every day and have since high school, altho I started wearing blush to school when I was in 8th grade (a major no-no at my Catholic school). I have to give my 13 year old self some credit for decent application – I was never caught!

I do wear makeup to enhance my beauty – I don’t think it makes me look beautiful, but it helps make my eyes look less small and like another someone wrote in an earlier comment, ‘less tired’. It also makes me feel more polished and put together.

I honestly don’t worry about what anyone else will think of my makeup. I could probably use some new tricks, but I think I do a pretty good job, in general and I’m confident that the colors I choose work for me and my skin tone.

That being said, it never ceases to make me laugh when I wear a bright red lipstick and am asked what the occasion is. Isn’t today a good enough reason? If it makes me feel happy, then why wait for a ‘special’ day??

By: Sandy Sandy Mon, 21 Nov 2011 22:24:47 +0000 I have never once thought of makeup as a risk, but it is! And I think that’s why I collect so much of it but never wear it! I’m a brave person! I’m gonna start TODAY!