Comments on: Design Mom Asks: Topless Beaches http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/ The Intersection of Design & Motherhood Mon, 01 Sep 2014 00:19:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Anna http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-920960 Anna Fri, 23 May 2014 10:07:24 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-920960 It’s pity that nobody is realising that toples sunbathing for women is the MAJOR reason for breast cancer!

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By: Susan http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-818036 Susan Tue, 24 Dec 2013 08:42:43 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-818036 I like to go nude and topless on nude beachs. It my choice. I don’t care what other people think.

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By: Erin http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-536518 Erin Mon, 22 Jul 2013 04:14:07 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-536518 Studying abroad in France, on a beach no less, I spent an entire semester topless on the beach. The first time it was awkward, but it quickly became the norm. Once, while laying out with my girlfriends, my boyfriend suddenly appeared and tapped me on the shoulder. I opened my eyes and was shocked to see him and like 6 of his friends?! He just wanted to let me know that they were starting their football (soccer) game a bit late and that he wanted to push back dinner for an hour. As they walked away I thought about how in America we’d all be shocked that all of our significant others friends had just seen us topless, but it truly was no big deal. I would recommend all college girls spend a semester topless on a beach–I’m now in my 30′s and pregnant with my second baby, my body certainly looks different than 13 years ago–but I’m significantly more comfortable in my own skin than most women I know. (I also recommend french boyfriends to all 20 somethings!)

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By: Bonnie http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-428469 Bonnie Thu, 10 Jan 2013 17:30:37 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-428469 We’re moving to Portugal this summer, and I plan on fully enjoying the laid-back attitude they have toward the human body there. I’m comfortable in my own skin, for the most part, and I don’t consider my breasts something to be shy about in a setting like a top-optional beach. I think having my son is what really did it for me – my body feels like “just a body” now instead of some sort of troublesome appliance that I have to fuss over and worry about. I used to feel detached from my body in a way, like it was a dress that I had to be very careful not to wrinkle or stain, but I’m much more one with it now that “we” have been pregnant, given birth, nursed, and spent a lot of casual time naked in front of a boy. Also, having a little one that runs naked and free sometimes has really desexualized nudity for me.

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By: Kirsty Boucher http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-404275 Kirsty Boucher Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:43:00 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-404275 What an interesting debate… I am American raised however have lived in England for nearly 30 years. I told my new boyfriend, who is American that I go topless when on a beach in Europe, in the privacy of my own home in my garden if the weather is ever good enough to do so, at my family home in America around my family. They were all uncomfortable with it initially but once I had been topless for an hour laying on the blow up device in the pool drinking a cocktail they were soon realised it wasnt a big deal. I really dont like swimming or sunbathing with lots of fabric on and so i find it really restricting. I do not have breasts that any man would swoon over however my new boyfriend is horrified that I would go topless in front of others. I am going to have to bring him to a beach in Europe to show him that it isnt a sexual exploit as many people here have mentioned. Old old ladies go topless and children are topless and the 40 somethings that have had children, have cellulite, a little extra winter fuel do in fact go topless like myself. Why do men feel that it is so terrible if their woman does it but happy to look at other women who do it??? Double standard???
This isnt helped by the fact that he has said it is because I am “his woman”. :) You can imagine this comment didnt go down too well…. The need to educate men is frightening!!!

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By: Giselle http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-1/#comment-327305 Giselle Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:30:46 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-327305 That’s exactly what I did! But I pulled my arms out of the neck opening , pulled it down a little, flipped it inside out, and let my legs through the arm openings. Wow, those were the days.

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By: Giselle http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-327222 Giselle Mon, 05 Dec 2011 20:30:34 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-327222 That is especially true of me. I was raised topless on the beach, bottoms-only.

(sorry for being anonymous… But my email is full of mails from comments like this)

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By: Giselle http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-1/#comment-326851 Giselle Sun, 04 Dec 2011 19:19:23 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-326851 My feelings exactly!

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By: Giselle http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-1/#comment-326850 Giselle Sun, 04 Dec 2011 19:16:44 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-326850 I go topless, or in a one-piece. Meaning with my family and children, son and daughter (twins) 9, older daughter 12. All of us girls don’t even own a bikini top. Also, “modesty” is what you make of it. Meaning, if it was unacceptable to go topless then it is immodest, and vice-versa.

Christian, believe it or not.

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By: Kate Coates http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-1/#comment-300211 Kate Coates Tue, 04 Oct 2011 12:24:26 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-300211 I love this, from the “parts is parts” from your grandma, to the mental image of the 70 year old woman…. absolutely true and phenomenal!

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By: Hilary Rudd http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-291734 Hilary Rudd Thu, 25 Aug 2011 13:28:37 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-291734 Design Mom, I think you need to come clean… did you actually go topless or not on your trip to the French beach?

Assuming you didn’t, I think you should try it and post again on this topic!

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By: Hilary Rudd http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-291733 Hilary Rudd Thu, 25 Aug 2011 13:24:02 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-291733 I’m British and 54 – I first encountered topless bathing as a pert 23 year old in the South of France in 1978. Although virtually every woman and girl on the beaches was sans top, it took me three days to pluck up the courage. Since then I have rarely sunbathed with a top on, even on UK beaches and at home. My three grown up children have always taken it for granted that their mother sunbathes topless. Like Nick I have breastfed my children and share her sentiments about the joy of it!

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By: Droitetgauche http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-291641 Droitetgauche Tue, 23 Aug 2011 23:52:33 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-291641 I visited France and Italy 2 years ago with my husband, his sister and his best friend. We only visited two beaches (one in Annecy and one in Massa) and saw some topless sunbathers of different ages. My companions were uncomfortable (especially the boys) but I’m a bit more of a heathen than the rest of them and I thought the women looked really pretty and comfortable, and I was jealous. I’m pear shaped, so if any clothing is staying on in public, it’s the trousers for sure. But if I’d been on those beaches without my companions? That top would have been off in a flash! (no pun intended :)

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By: Annie http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-289019 Annie Wed, 10 Aug 2011 17:29:58 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-289019 I would definitely have the confidence to go topless, in fact I already have. Confidence with nudity most certainly has a great deal to do with the society and culture you are surrounded by. I feel like going topless or completely nude is very liberating. Just like when you were a child running in the yard completely naked!

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By: kpriss http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-288929 kpriss Tue, 09 Aug 2011 14:28:38 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288929 This is something that still keeps me busy from time to time – especially in summer – wink-. However, things have seriously turned for negative since our kids have grown (the eldest, a boy, is 7 in just a month and a half). Not only do I keep myself covered (swimsuit, two pieces bikini, but swimsuit nevertheless), we also carefully choose the beach we’re going to, permanently looking out for any semi / nudity. Kids are so curious…

That doesn’t mean I don’t approve or understand topless sunbathing. Au contraire. I did it too. Even if I had already breastfed two kids.

Also – I think breastfeeding isn’t immodest. It’s the best thing to do for the baby and the mother. However, it should be done in private. But not because of the “showing” part but because most babies tend to be easily distracted and forget about eating if they hear / see anything in their immediate proximity.

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By: Meg Dugan http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-288865 Meg Dugan Mon, 08 Aug 2011 18:23:19 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288865 I always thought I would not have a problem going topless. Once unexpectedly faced with the opportunity, however, I could not go through with it . . .

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By: bettijo @ PagingSupermom.com http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-288683 bettijo @ PagingSupermom.com Sat, 06 Aug 2011 00:13:54 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288683 Interesting! I didn’t realize that. I hope you brought along plenty of suits for Maude ;) (OK, I guess she’s older than 6 LOL!)

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By: bettijo @ PagingSupermom.com http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-288682 bettijo @ PagingSupermom.com Sat, 06 Aug 2011 00:07:03 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288682 I found this topic super interesting since I just got back from the beach on Wednesday. With my new baby in tow, I had to nurse while at the beach, but you can bet I was sheepish and buried under towels and blankets. I had to laugh about Maude “being embarrassed for the world” — I can just imagine! LOL!

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By: Nick http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-2/#comment-288658 Nick Fri, 05 Aug 2011 21:30:53 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288658 This has been a really interesting read, as a nearly 50 year old brit who has breast fed 3 children for a year each time, I go topless on french beaches because I love the feel of the sun on my skin, my husband and children(10,13 and 14) have no problem with it.
I find it really sad that so many women have only seen young/augmented breasts and not those of other women in all their variations, it’s no wonder that women feel inadequate about their bodies. Despite what some men think, a breasts primary purpose is to feed a baby not as a sex toy.

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By: Carrie Hill http://www.designmom.com/2011/08/design-mom-asks-topless-beaches/comment-page-1/#comment-288627 Carrie Hill Fri, 05 Aug 2011 18:27:33 +0000 http://www.designmom.com/?p=12660#comment-288627 Gabby,

Thank you for so thoughtfully and eloquently expressing what I feel is an important point, so I’m going to put my own two cents in.

What a slippery slope! If the way a woman dresses (or doesn’t dress, if in an appropriate place to be lacking certain clothing) puts her in a position of being responsible for anyone’s thoughts, wouldn’t it be an easy jump to make the case for her then being responsible for another’s actions through her manner of dress, no matter how inappropriate, abusive, violent or illegal those actions may be.

I appreciate your clear and thoughtful management of the discussion around this.

Carrie

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