Has Blogging Transformed Motherhood?

June 29, 2011

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My mom writes a sometimes-blog and I especially loved her latest post. It’s about how blogging has changed motherhood for her daughters. In her post, she references a journal entry she wrote in 1973 (the year before I was born) when she had 4 young children at home.

I hope you’ll read it and tell me what you think. I’d love to know if you feel the same way about blogging.

P.S. — I love that I get to blog for a living. Even better, I love that I get to blog about my experiences as a mother for a living. I would say I definitely do what I love and love what I do.

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1 KarinS June 29, 2011 at 8:06 am

What a wise woman! Thank you for sharing her with us. ;)

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2 Olivia June 29, 2011 at 8:20 am

Wow, I love your Mom! So wise (not to mention an excellent writer). I often think about, and feel tremendous gratitude for, what being a mother in the internet age means. I get to work from home and be with my little boy as much as possible. We’re far away from family, but they’re a part of our son’s life via blogging, Facebook, Skype and Flickr (and of course old-fashioned phone calls). And, as your Mom so eloquently points out, I rarely feel isolated or lonely. In fact, I think I felt more isolated when I worked for a large corporation right out of college. As I said, I’m very grateful–thanks for reminding me!

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3 Alicia W. June 29, 2011 at 8:22 am

Wow! Your mom has a talent for writing! Thank you for sharing her beautiful words with us today!

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4 Kim June 29, 2011 at 8:26 am

Your mother is so eloquent! (That must be where you get it!) And she pretty much hit the nail on the head. I couldn’t agree more about the whole blogging/motherhood thing. Thanks for sharing.

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5 Crystal (theweekendhomemaker.com) June 29, 2011 at 8:30 am

Beautifully written and thought provoking.

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6 The BabbyMama June 29, 2011 at 8:31 am

What an awesome post! Honestly, the positive feedback I get from blogging has filled a void in my life. Maybe I’m just built to put myself out there, but I think I’ve always thrived on praise. Why would it be any different when it comes to motherhood? Blogging has changed me and my world for the better, for sure!

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7 Design Mom June 29, 2011 at 8:58 am

I hear you. I think most people thrive on praise. I know children do!

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8 esperanza b June 29, 2011 at 8:34 am

Gabrielle, your mom is absolutely right, blogs have become a great scape not just for who writes if not also for those who read them … I like to think that thanks to them we make a great community of mothers who share and listen to our experiences.

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9 Mary June 29, 2011 at 8:38 am

Wonderful post, and I absolutely agree. Blogs provide a fun creative outlet, and it’s also so nice to know that so many others out there have the same struggles and joys. It’s a wonderful community. My own little blog with only a handful of readers still manages to provide this to me, and I’m grateful I discovered blogging.

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10 Design Mom June 29, 2011 at 8:58 am

So true, Mary! The size really doesn’t matter, does it? When I was blogging as a hobby instead of a job, I felt the same benefits.

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11 Heidi June 29, 2011 at 8:42 am

My sister and I have talked of this many times. We both live in rather small towns so the internet reminds us that we’re actually a part of this world. It’s so amazing to be able to connect with people across the country whereas, before the internet, that would have been very difficult to do!

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12 Janssen June 29, 2011 at 8:52 am

My mom has said the same thing so many times. What a fantastic post by your lovely mother.

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13 rachel schindler June 29, 2011 at 9:05 am

I love that you blog too! Even though my kids are mostly grown, my youngest is 15, I still enjoy reading your blog and my oldest is expecting her first, and I’ve learned a lot for her from your blog. So Thank you! Plus, I love reading and looking at your pictures of France. PS your family photos were beautiful.

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14 Jen E @ mommablogsalot June 29, 2011 at 9:10 am

Just read the post and she is absolutely right (and also a terrific writer!) – what a great view on what blogging can bring to motherhood!

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15 Damaris @Kitchen Corners June 29, 2011 at 9:16 am

I couldn’t agree more with your mom. I just wish more LDS thought the same way instead of condemning each other, “you blog? does that mean you neglect your children and your husband?” give me a break.

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16 emily June 29, 2011 at 9:19 am

what a sweet and charming post. and, as much as i love blogs and all the amazing benefits they offer, i love even more that she pointed out “the Eternal Fans watched from beyond the Veil.” thanks for sharing! (oh, and i love that she kept a journal. my mom passed away just after my second baby and her journals are such an essential insight into her feelings as a mother.)

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17 jennie June 29, 2011 at 9:21 am

Your mom is a great writer! Easy to see where you and your talented siblings get it from!

Your mom’s header “Mom in Mendon” was fun to see … is that Cache Valley’s Mendon? I also live there!

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18 Dani Henriksen June 29, 2011 at 9:22 am

I loved your mom’s words. It made me smile to think of a crowd of people cheering and applauding all of the incredible things women do on a daily basis. Mothers sure do impressive things everyday without any recognition. I never really thought about how nice it is to have the online community, I truly think it has changed motherhood for the positive! I loved the insight from a mother of a different era.

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19 Melissa@Julia's Bookbag June 29, 2011 at 9:25 am

What lovely, brilliant post!! This idea of how blogging fulfills a creative need/void regardless of the size of your readership reminds me of when I saw Bradley Cooper on the “Actor’s Studio” a few weeks back — he said that for him, acting fills a need in him and that he would gain the benefits from it whether he was acting in front of two people in a barn for no money or in front of millions ….. Parenting is wonderful but also HARD and blogging allows us to be connected with each other and gain support — I’ve read that some people feel that the internet keeps people away from each other, but in my experience, it definitely brings us closer together!!

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20 Sarah H June 29, 2011 at 9:26 am

I can’t get over how much you look like your mom. That pictures looks like you washing the dishes in a 70′s house.
I do like having a blog, but my blog isn’t famous or much more than a journal. I like that my friends can see and respond often positively to what I write. I think that if I took it farther- if I were you or Jordan or Liz then I would be unable to do all of the “mom stuff” that I’m “supposed” to do. I’m happy with where I am and what I’m doing. And I’m happy that you can find joy in what you’re doing. Goodness knows that I benefit from your blog and your efforts!

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21 Shalise June 29, 2011 at 9:27 am

I love it! It’s so refreshing to connect with people who are in your same stage of life, who really get what you do and believe. Thank goodness for the internet and creative women who want to share! Thank goodness for my own little private blog that almost no one reads.

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22 hikooky June 29, 2011 at 9:28 am

Ah – your mother writes beautifully! And I think that she nailed it. I’m thankful that I’ve got the blogosphere during my time as a mom to young children. I can’t imagine life without it!

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23 ~j. June 29, 2011 at 9:29 am

Such wisdom. I’ve thought about how beneficial it would have been to have had an online community of support when my oldest was born (rather than beginning when my third was just a baby). We crave that praise and applause, even support for those who aren’t close (geographically, or otherwise) with their own family members. I do admit, though, to also cringing at the potential onslaught — so many opinions, so many articles and sites…it could easily confound a new mom who, in looking for solutions to her new role, looks frantically elsewhere for answers rather than paying attention to her own instincts.

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24 Sharlene June 29, 2011 at 9:51 am

I just commented on your mother’s blog. As everyone has said above, she is an excellent writer!!! I’ve kept a journal all my life, but have never written anything as beautiful and creative as her 1973 journal entry. I think your mother and I are close to the same age and I am thrilled that my daughters live in the generation of blogging. I know it’s enriched their lives. I love that they have the blogging connection, Facebook, e-mails, and twitter. It’s all good. It’s a good thing (as Martha would say.)

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25 denese June 29, 2011 at 9:54 am

Well, of course, I’m not surprised to find your mother full of wisdom and completely on point. I love reading, meeting and getting to know all the wonderful women out there and see all the ways in which we family.

Hats off to your mom for her obvious expertise in raising right.

best – d.
post script: girls rule! :)

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26 Stacy Orndorff June 29, 2011 at 10:33 am

Love it! She is an amazing writer…I don’t take time to read just anything and I was captivated. If only I could figure out how to add her blog to my Reader.

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27 juliagblair June 29, 2011 at 10:36 am

Your mom is a marvel! So are you! I’m honored and delighted to be connected!

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28 Salem June 29, 2011 at 10:47 am

Mom is pretty awesome.

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29 Adventures In Babywearing June 29, 2011 at 10:48 am

Oh, I loved your mom’s post! I couldn’t agree more. And I am also so thankful that I love what I do, too. I did have to take some deep breaths today when others speak of digital sabbaticals and that- for me- would be like saying I’m just not going to work for a month and that’s just not wise. This is a pretty awesome gig.

Steph

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30 Ana June 29, 2011 at 11:06 am

On my way there!

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31 Jenny also June 29, 2011 at 11:18 am

I so agree! Not to mention the benefits of reading blogs! Reading blogs allows me to hear different perspectives and ideas but it’s so much more than that…. I think of you all as a my chorus . My favorites all seem to be written by Mormon women. Maybe I’ll have to start a Jewish Mama blog trend so we can trade tips on packing kosher/dairy lunches to preschool, making Passover sedar kid friendly, etc…

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32 Adrianne June 29, 2011 at 11:23 am

Absolutely! Even with other stay-at-home moms to hang out with or mommy groups to join, blogs have allowed me to easily find like-minded women (moms or not). I think it would have taken sooo much longer to find a group of people with the same interests as me if I had to try and meet them in person. Like your mom said, it’s nice to have an audience, even if it’s just someone who appreciates that you managed to track down that elusive stain remover that will remove breastmilk spit-up after it’s dried.

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33 Diana June 29, 2011 at 11:29 am

Interesting, Yes, Motherhood much like teaching in some ways, is not full of praise but the benefits are so huge that i am speechless just thinking about it! Am sure your Mum is so happy that you are all so happy, that is what we want for our children, always, to be happy and healthy ( So glad to hear Mimi is on the mend;). You know I have considered blogging but i have to ask, are there too many bloggers out there now? I am way past my time to join the blogging world? I too search for something more, and to date it has been my own PD, but with countless degrees now I was thinking about blogging. Thoughts on this?
I love people, travel, learning, there is so much to do!
What shall I do?

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34 Tiffany Hoehne July 1, 2011 at 6:22 pm

I feel the same way! I like blogging, but at the same time I have to wonder–is it just white noise? I am a smart, creative person, but does the world need one more blogger? I keep trying to figure out if what I have to offer is needed, or if I should find a different outlet for my talents. (Blogging is just so easy compared to a lot of things….)

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35 Cari June 29, 2011 at 11:30 am

Hit the nail on the head!

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36 Moriah June 29, 2011 at 11:31 am

This rings so true! Thank you for sharing this and many other pieces of wisdom. Your mom is right. I have a blog, not many readers, but it doesn’t matter, the creative outlet is what matters to me most. A big thank you goes out to all the moms out there! The hardest job you could ever love!

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37 Celia June 29, 2011 at 11:34 am

Loved your mother’s post today!!! She writes beautifully and it’s so nice to hear others thoughts on these things!!

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38 Laura June 29, 2011 at 11:36 am

What a beautiful post! Having a blog of my own has connected me — and introduced me — to so many wonderful women, most of whom I would have never known. Thanks for sharing. It’s an inspiration.

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39 Shannon June 29, 2011 at 11:43 am

I loved this post, truly. It’s so nice to know that another mom understands! She understands that it is boring to change diapers, and clean the kitchen table for the 100th time that day, but as moms we do it anyway. Excellent post, I wrote a response on my blog if you are interested.

Shannon
11thandshannon.blogspot.com

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40 tawnya June 29, 2011 at 11:50 am

1. I wrote something along the same lines last year. How my blog is my connection and the internet is a lifeline in motherhood. It’s absolutely amazing what it is in my life; a touchstone to who I am at the core.

2. I just realized I live in the same valley as your mom and now I want to invite her to lunch!

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41 Jane June 29, 2011 at 11:52 am

I think that even for those of us who don’t blog ourselves, the blogosphere has allowed meaningful connections to be made between mothers everywhere. When the baby is wired at 3:00 a.m., I can take comfort in reading another mom’s account of the same experience. Or I can commiserate about the rollercoaster of parenting a “tween.” Or I can live vicariously through someone who is living my dream of picking up and moving the clan to Europe . . . Thanks, Gabrielle! (There is something of your mother’s voice in your own writing, and I hope you take that as a compliment!)

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42 Miss Stovetop June 29, 2011 at 12:21 pm

Your mom sounds like so much fun. Which of the girls is you in the picture? Or are those the 4 siblings before you?

Like someone said on here, blogging is also about connecting. Yes, I love the bits about promoting small businesses and great ideas, but the virtual connections you make with bloggers you regularly follow is a different thing. Like how I’ve seen June and Toby grow through you and Joanna. Like how I sometimes feel like I’m sitting in Deb’s NYC kitchen. Like how the first thing I look for in your family pictures is Oscar’s cheeky grin (and hope my next will be a cute boy JUST like him… lol).

Today where everyone works longer hours and sees little of their “real” friends, I think the blogosphere fills a great void.

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43 sarah June 29, 2011 at 12:34 pm

wow….i do think your mom is so right. i love getting a comment on my blog. unfortunately, i only have 8 followers, so there are days that i still feel a little “un praised.” however, i haven’t posted in a while, so….but then again, i don’t have the money to do a new project every day like some bloggers do.

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44 Chris June 29, 2011 at 12:46 pm

Yes! This is so well put. These beautiful, stylish, interesting, unique online communities have become so important in my daily life. I would love to be able to blog for a living, I just don’t know that it is in the stars for me but I get so much energy and inspiration from reading many other people’s ideas and shows of talent and passion in a positive and uplifting and supportive online community of women & mothers!

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45 Val June 29, 2011 at 1:04 pm

Can I agree and disagree?

I think that it is true that blogs are good outlets and we all stalk each other and love to get comments but at the same time, I find that people who know others in real life and read their blogs they are quick to criticize. If that makes sense.

For instance. Blogging for me is for my family all over the country. I have no family near me and I blog for my family to see what me and the children are up to. I don’t blog everyday about how my kids were unruly at Target or how I left the dishes in the sink because – it doesn’t matter.

But, because I only blog the good stuff or all of the places we went to people who know me or know of others in their circles become critical and “jealous.” Like me or the person they are critical of think or try to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect.

I find that no matter what you think about me or the person’s blog you are reading – it is your perspective and how you read it that is the problem.

You can’t tell me that you didn’t get negative comments about you deciding to uproot your family to France for a year – just for the experience. Someone out there had something mean to say – had an opinion formed out of their perspective or their jealousy.

I love to blog. I love to print it out at the end of the year and keep it with the other yearly adventures. I have just learned to gain a thick skin in what people think or comment about because sometimes people have no filter, and don’t really care what they say.

whew. that novel is over. I promise.

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46 Tiff July 1, 2011 at 6:35 pm

You are so right!!!

I fell into that trap myself….a cousin (whom I loved dearly) blogged about her PERFECT life and annoyed me so much! Then I had the chance to visit her one summer. I saw her tiny apartment with it’s sparse furnishings. She fed us a delicious, but humble, meal. We talked for several hours. And I left with the realization: Her life is not perfect. She and her husband are poor college students. The crafts she posts on her blog are the only adornment of their tiny home. They are always going on outings so that they don’t get cabin fever. She is an incredibly adventurous and optimistic person. She isn’t being fake on her blog; she is focusing on her blessings.

Ever since our visit, I can appreciate that in bloggers that I know. Because you’re right, it doesn’t bug me with bloggers I don’t know.

Which brings me to my question–should I worry about alienating my friends and relations on my blog? Sometimes I want my blog to be more than letters to home, but I’m worried that people will think I’m trying to be a “real” blog. Get me? I know I shouldn’t live my life for others, but at the same time I love these people and want them to feel comfortable in my online space.

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47 Val June 29, 2011 at 1:06 pm

one more thing. I think it has changed motherhood because sometimes it makes us feel insecure about our abilities because what we see in others lives – is easy to compare and feel inadequate even if that wasn’t intended.

okay for real now. I am done.

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48 Lee June 29, 2011 at 1:47 pm

I appreciate what Val said above. I think blogging or following a blog can be a very positive experience but that people need to use caution as they would in any other friendship or group experience.

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49 Bobbi June 29, 2011 at 2:15 pm

As a 61 year old mother of 5 (and grandmother to 11), I especially loved your mother’s comments. I am sure I could find some journal entries of my own that are the same–just a little lonely longing for empathy and/or praise. I love reading my daughters’ blogs, and am grateful that they have friends who cheer them on and who truly understand their situations. I am grateful for the quick connection for me to their thoughts, for updated photos of my grandchildren (some of whom live far away), and for the community of sharing ideas on many things. I like the new friends I have made through the internet, young and old, and find that the community of women, mothers, adventurers, designers, etc. enriches my life. Thanks, Gabrielle!
And yes, regarding the post on your children emailing themselves, I have printed out my own blog at Blurb.com for the last 5 years. They are tidy, professional-looking, and long-lasting journals/scrapbooks. Making the children’s letters to themselves into books when you return to the U.S. will cement these experiences into life-long memories. That is a great idea.

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50 kelli June 29, 2011 at 2:24 pm

your mom is right on! motherhood is a lonely place sometimes, for sure, although no one likes to say that! i love that she was given the advice to have a hobby or an extra something going on- just for her. the same still holds true today, you get caught up the the daily grind and there is no time to appreciate what you have done – if it was creating, learning, growing…it might get missed. i often am amazed at the self satisfaction that comes with spray painting a piece of furniture or potting a plant. HA!! i am not alone. and im not crazy. xo

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51 This girl loves to Talk June 29, 2011 at 3:45 pm

I blogged this type of thing very recently but your mum put it SOO MUCH BETTER! We just want some praise over how hard it all is.

whenever people ask me why I blog I say to them that it is a FREE creative outlet. I no longer spend lots of money on hobbies. And I get a few comments from friends here and there. I love it.

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52 Jessica June 29, 2011 at 3:57 pm

I agree with your mom – and even with my blog I still feel like that. I don’t want to be famous – just a little attention every now and then.

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53 the mrs June 29, 2011 at 4:23 pm

I love that your mother’s mother “gave us permission to have an outlet.”
Wisdom’s in your family blood.

Before I clicked over to Design Mom today, I was just thinking about how you ‘do it all.’ I’ve been stuggling lately with my different ‘rolls’ I’m supposed to fill & how to fill them well.

Your (and your mother’s) posts touched my heart.
Thank you both for them!

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54 rachel schindler June 29, 2011 at 4:31 pm

You look just like your Mom.

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55 se7en June 29, 2011 at 4:34 pm

Oh your mom is so brilliant!!! I wish my mom had had a blog… I would so love to know what she was thinking… I think I would go bananas with out a blog to rock ideas around and have a couple of great friends stop by and say wonderful… Really blogging opened the world for me and gave me so much mothering confidence… no more sitting in isolation at home wondering if you are doing the right thing, because there is always someone saying – great idea!!!

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56 That Uncomfortable Itch June 29, 2011 at 4:39 pm

Wow, your mom rocks! She hits right on the head. What a gift we all have in this blogging gig. I love it how she wonders why there are no applause, we all have those moments, eh?

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57 Big Dreams Mama June 29, 2011 at 5:00 pm

I love your mom’s honest observations. So true & I’m so grateful for blogs!

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58 the emily June 29, 2011 at 5:05 pm

Wow. That is a fantastic observation. I’ve thought several times about giving up my blog because of the time it takes–nothing like yours of course, but then I don’t get paid for it–but as I discuss it with my sister we’ve both said how hard it would be to give up. It’s hard to give up “the fans”. It’s hard to lose the affirmation, even on days when I post about the bad things. There is always someone there to cheer me on, to lift me up, to tell me I’m doing a good job. I just moved to a tiny town in NM and have no friends, and I swear, my life has been saved by blogging. Your mom is right. It’s transformed motherhood, and I think definitely for the better.

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59 Georgia June 29, 2011 at 5:57 pm

Hi, I’m younger than your Mother but older than many of the young mothers whose blogs I read. My children of which there are four were born in the mid late eighties and one in 94. I have been a single mother longer than I was married. Mothering is a hard, lonely and yet rewarding job. It can also break y1our heart at times. I enjoyed reading your Mom’s words and I heard the echos of my own as well. I too can see how transformative the blogging world can be and how different it is for young mothers. However, I do believe there is a downside. Sometimes I pick up on this whine and complain and I find it bothers me. I want to say put on your big girl pants and deal. I hope that doesn’t sound insensitive but I do believe blogging can create a MeMeMe mind set that can be unattractive.
Enjoy your adventures!

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60 Dee June 29, 2011 at 6:19 pm

Love that! I have to say I am pretty lucky to have a small fan club of family and friends including my kiddos who always know just when I need encouragement the most.

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61 christina June 29, 2011 at 6:36 pm

I feel incredibly blessed to have my community of online mom friends, especially since I am the first of my “real life” friends to have children, and will probably be alone in this phase for a good 5-10 years. Its so interesting to see that your mom had a desire for such a community when she had young children, as I often wonder about how different it is being a mother in the age of the internet.

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62 Bettijo @ Paging Supermom June 29, 2011 at 6:53 pm

That is a phenomenal post — she hit the nail right on the head. Thank you, THANK YOU, so much for sharing your Mom’s words with me.

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63 Meg Grant June 29, 2011 at 6:54 pm

Your mom is right on target. I know, with great certainty that I would not be the same mother I am today without my blog. It is a beautiful thing to marry my home life, my work, my hobbies, and my thoughts in one space. The importance does not lie in the number of readers I have, but rather the fact that I carve time out of my day, when all is quiet in the house and write. Thank you so very much for sharing this. Many hugs to your daughter in her recovery as well…

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64 vanessa @ silly eagle books June 29, 2011 at 6:55 pm

Wow. I got chills when I read her 1973 journal entry–it’s almost as if she could see into the future because she described all the things that blogging fulfills in my life.

I have memories of watching my mother spend hours and hours painting these crazy clothes pin wreaths (when I was a child) and I always wondered why she felt the need to do that until I became a mother–you just need a creative outlet–something apart from motherhood–like your mother explained.

Thanks for sharing this post with us. I really enjoyed reading it.

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65 pepper June 29, 2011 at 7:01 pm

Fantastic and true, my mom has expressed similar sentiments to me and how she wished the internet had been around when she was in the midst of full time mothering. The blog world and internet in general have made my life as a stay at home mom so very nice. I’m far away from family and love the easy connection to them and endless friends.

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66 Khali June 29, 2011 at 7:09 pm

Your mother is such a wise, wise woman with such a beautiful written voice. It would be lovely to have her guest post on Design Mom from time to time.

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67 Sandra Gonzales June 29, 2011 at 7:14 pm

You know that you and your mother cock your heads to the side in the exact same way? I love the miracle of genetics.

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68 Erin June 29, 2011 at 7:37 pm

Yeah, I do agree–though I had never put that into words. It’s the beauty of like-minded people having a conversation, and leaving feeling lifted by others’ praise, more secure in their roles (mundane ones, even), and connected to other mothers who feel the same ways.

I think this is why our mothers/grandmothers/great-grandmothers belonged to bridge, reading, knitting, and other clubs. It wasn’t so much about the specific skill (though that’s a nice draw), but it was about the relationships and affirmation that, to repeat a phrase, we’re all doing okay.

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69 Shannon @ A Mom's Year June 29, 2011 at 7:53 pm

Loved your mom’s post. It reminded me of the story of a woman visiting the U.S. from a village that didn’t have any kind of plumbing. In her home, women spent a lot of time collecting water from the village well for their families. So she was shocked to find that the town she was visiting had no well. “But how do you know what’s happening in each other’s lives?” she asked. We don’t have wells to gather around anymore, but maybe we’re creating our own “wells” with our blogs.

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70 brooke June 29, 2011 at 8:26 pm

blogging definitely has been therapeutic for me. i wish i could make money doing it, but am not sure that i’m creative enough or witty enough to do so. i do love reading your blog, and now enjoy your mother’s blog. she is adorable.

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71 Jill June 29, 2011 at 8:41 pm

Your mom’s post hit home with me today. I work full time in a traditional office setting and barely find time to do laundry let alone blog. I was feeling envious today of work-from-home/stay-at-home moms who get to spend leisurely summer days with their kids. This was a good reminder that the life of every mom is filled with challenges and trade-offs – muddling through seems to be a universal experience. Thanks for the reminder that I’m one of the lucky ones.

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72 Alexis June 29, 2011 at 8:54 pm

I think it has changed the expectations of motherhood, and it’s a double edged sword. While yes, it is a way to find a cheering section and reach out to others, it can also feel as much of an obligation as doing the dishes or folding the laundry. I have have spent entire nap times tweaking photos, working on a logo, deciding how I want to “brand” myself because a lot of the time it feels like if you are a SAHM, doing the housework, the finances, the childcare and maintaining a some kind of romantic and social life isn’t enough. You also now need a clever blog or an Etsy shop or a witty Twitter feed. I miss working, and I like having a place to journal my crafting, but I hate that I feel pressure to find a way to make my online presence anything bigger than it currently is.

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73 Queen Scarlett June 29, 2011 at 9:27 pm

Just like any plant – we need care and nurturing to not just fulfill the measure of our creation – but to magnify it. Blogging has helped me be more. I hope that by being more for my girls – they become much, much more than I am.

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74 Jennifer Price June 29, 2011 at 9:33 pm

I’m the mom of two grown daughters and I have a grandson. I’m new to the whole blogging world. I found your blog Gabrielle while planning a 30th wedding anniversary trip to Europe. I was a stay-at-home mom, who worked as a freelance radio journalist when I felt like it. There is no doubt that blogging has givin mothers an outlet for creativity and support, but I can’t help but feel there is also something lacking. There is no replacement for the human touch, eye contact or the spoken word. The beauty of mother to mother sharing, this was so enriching to me. I found it through a mothering support group worldwide. The encouragement and “praise” as well as the friendships have stayed with me for a lifetime! No computer could ever replace that.

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75 vanina June 29, 2011 at 11:20 pm

Wonderful! And so true. Thanks for sharing!

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76 Amy/Progressive Pioneer June 29, 2011 at 11:35 pm

I really loved that post, so much truth in it. Interestingly, I just chose to end my blog (you can read the final post here: http://www.progressivepioneer.com/progressive-pioneer/). I won’t explain all the thoughts that went into it here, but needless to say the emotional life of a mother is a complicated one, not to mention the day-to-day life of PBJ making, laundry folding and boo-boo kissing:)

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77 nicole June 29, 2011 at 11:37 pm

I love your moms post! I love even more that she wrote it down back then & kept it. These days blogging has made journaling so much easier for those of us who hate to hand write & for those of us who can’t even read our own handwriting…. I’ve made private blogs for each of my kids that I like to write about their going ons & I like to write my own thoughts about my life at those moments that I think they might appreciate reading in the future. Reading your moms post makes me happy I’ve started them.

I’m rambling… anyhow your mom seems super rad & your grandma was so great to make sure your mom knew she could be more than “Mommy” we all need creative outlets in our lives!

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78 Jammy June 29, 2011 at 11:42 pm

Thank you for sharing your mother with us. I was moved by her posting and am certainly now her fan, and followed her blog (and yours). I too am a blogger, new to the forum but there is nothing I am more passionate about or enjoy more than I do writing it. I too hope to make a living at it and wonder how you accomplished that. I hope it isnt too forward of me to ask for advice. Thank you so much. Jammy

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79 Nikki June 30, 2011 at 12:40 am

I love your Mum. Blogs brighten the day – every time. x

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80 Kholisa June 30, 2011 at 1:36 am

Thank you for sharing this! Your Mom has so beautifully articulated why blogs have such meaning for motherhood and mothers. I’m on the other side of the globe but I’m touched, inspired and supported by your words/experiences every day, I value that so much and it makes all the difference!

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81 Emily @ My Pajama Days June 30, 2011 at 7:33 am

I found you on Twitter today – what an awesome post your mother wrote. I commented there for her too. Loneliness is exactly why I started blogging a year ago – friendships are why I keep doing it. I look forward to getting to know you better through your words and inspiration.

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82 Michelle June 30, 2011 at 11:26 am

Amen to your mother. Thank heaven for the internet. And yet sometimes I’m still wishing I had something… It’s funny i think blogs and facebook really are for one thing: Validation. And if that’s it, it’s enough, right?

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83 Patricia June 30, 2011 at 12:03 pm

This was an amazing post. Like mother like daughter or is it the other way around? Yes, I do think that blogging has altered motherhood in a positive inspiring way. No longer do we feel disconnected and removed from the world. We are now actors in the stage and motherhood has amplified this because we now have a new experience and perspective compared to other women. It’s a good thing, this blogging thing. And about your mom, wow is she eloquent or what? Love her writing and and admire her desire and drive to still be relevant and fresh in this new world of blogging moms. Awesome, awesome post!

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84 Laura Zarrin June 30, 2011 at 12:20 pm

She is such a wonderful writer and she is so right! My kids are 10 & 13 and I envy the new moms these days. There are so many wonderful blogs and opportunities to blog and connect. What a gift as they start their mothering journey! I have met so many creative friends in recent years through blogging and Twitter. I had been so lonely for artist friends for so long! Now I have them in spades.

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85 Ann June 30, 2011 at 2:37 pm

I love that you blog for a living! I get so many great ideas! Your Mom is a great writer! I had to laugh out loud at her last sentence. My boys have robes and they always leave them on the floor or couch. It drives me quite batty!!

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86 Joanna June 30, 2011 at 2:43 pm

I’m sure your mom is proud of you as a ‘blogger’. You are such an inspiration. You inspired me to write. Blogging for me does fill that void. It’s an expression, an outlet so I can reach out to mainly my family in the Philippines and also hoping that one day my daughter gets to read my posts and get to know me outside motherhood.

Thank you!!!

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87 portlandsunshine June 30, 2011 at 3:54 pm

totally love this post and your mom’s too!

http://portlandsunshine.blogspot.com/2011/06/mommy-bloggers.html

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88 M. June 30, 2011 at 4:17 pm

I want to echo what so many other people have said here – your mother is truly a talented writer!

However, I feel somewhat uncomfortable with the assertion that blogging somehow fills a spiritual void for mothers, particularly in the case of Design Mom. As you said in your post, you blog ‘for a living’ – there are businesses and services endorsed, and an emphasis placed on THINGS. Things are beautiful, things can enhance our lives, things bring convenience and joy…but things are material. Blogging is business.

Hopefully that doesn’t sound too negative – I really enjoy your blog! – but it’s always something at the back of my mind when I read blogs that employ affiliate marketing and third party sponsorship.

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89 kim June 30, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Thank you for sharing the link – your mum’s insight into this part of motherhood has certainly struck a chord with me today, and is very comforting. Especially the part about the folded washing. ;)

It’s quite easy to see why her family are so beautiful and talented. What a wonderful lady.

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90 Sarah R. June 30, 2011 at 6:41 pm

Oh my gosh, yes! Your mom’s post is spot on. I always say that the blogging movement is kind of like “revenge of the moms.” Right? It gives voice to things that were previously considered unimportant, or unworthy of discussion. Hurray to any and all moms who blog, and kudos to those who successfully make a business of it. Good for you!

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91 Mom in Mendon June 30, 2011 at 10:25 pm

Such positive comments! You might guess my reaction: “Oh! Oh, HERE’S the applause. After 35-40 years.” : )

I want to respond to/dialogue with every single one of you. Thank you. Thank you very much.

Love, Donna Stanley McEvoy

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92 KP June 30, 2011 at 11:23 pm

A great post by your mom! I definitely l feel that blogging has transformed motherhood for me. I attended a fireside by Claudia Bushman once where she talked about the importance of journal keeping, and she said that when people keep journals they tend to look for ways to improve their lives and find interesting things to do because they want something good to write about, and so the mere act of being a journal keeper ends up transforming lives. I was a bad journal keeper until I started a private blog for my family and friends far away to see what we were up to. Now I am an avid blogger aka journal keeper and I am constantly looking for ways to bring more fun, excitement and joy to my family’s lives because I know they will be looking at the blog books later in life and I want them to have good things to read about! I also find that blogging makes me look on the bright side of life more than ever because, really, who wants to read a depressing blog? I’m honest about the hard things, but I find the hard things to not be so taxing when you are looking on the bright side and when you know that you will have family and friends supporting you from afar. It’s nice to know that my journals will not only connect generations after me, but they connect me with friends and family on a daily basis now. I love blogging.

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93 Beth T. July 1, 2011 at 1:08 am

The poster reminds me of an embroidered saying my mom has had in her house for as long as I can remember: “Choose Your Love
Love Your Choice”

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94 Sara July 1, 2011 at 5:33 am

Wow; your mom is a wonderful writer! Such great insight…I think that social support and the ability to honestly express what you are going through is so important for mental well-being. Getting positive feedback in return makes our efforts so much more worth it! I don’t have z blog (yet), but even reading others’ thoughts and experiences helps validate my own with the knowledge that I’m not alone! Blogs are great, especially in a day when we are likely to be moving a lot and separated from family and long-term friends!

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95 jamie @ egg2cake July 1, 2011 at 9:19 am

Like mother, like daughter!

Simply put, blogging = creativity, voice and community! The ability to share inspiration, insights, humor and information is unprecedented…

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96 Erin July 1, 2011 at 1:17 pm

Lovely post. I cried when I read the bio under her blog title: ” . . . whose children are grown and live far from me.”

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97 Dariela July 3, 2011 at 12:50 am

Thanks so much for sharing Gabrielle! She put words into what most of us feel as blogger, that need to share with others is so great plis at the same time being creative and living what we do is great!

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98 Michelle Glauser July 3, 2011 at 5:16 pm

I don’t remember if I’ve told you this before, but this is exactly what I wrote my master’s thesis about! (It’s available in PDF form at my blog if you’re interested in reading it.) I argued that the feminine mystique problem Betty Friedan wrote about was solved by mommy blogs by giving them the outlet they needed. I’ll just have to write some more on the subject after having this excellent source of yours and your mother’s.

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99 Janet July 7, 2011 at 4:16 pm

I loved your mom’s post! I have a mostly ignored blog, which I attempted to resurrect about a month ago, but haven’t posted to again since. This might be the impetus to make me do so again, though. For me, blogging gave me the courage to dream about finishing my English degree, which was put on hold to raise a family. I am currently pursuing that dream!

I am a relatively new reader, by the way. I saw the HGTV episode of your family’s house hunt in France and had to find out more about your experience because I happen to be slightly (!) fascinated with France and all things French. Probably more than slightly. I have loved reading your blog!

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100 Melissa Edwards July 11, 2011 at 2:58 pm

That is adorable! I love that your mom is in on the action as well. I will definitely be reading!

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101 Beth July 17, 2011 at 8:36 pm

Your mom nailed it. I resonate so much with what she wrote. She put into words what I could never pinpoint about the importance (I feel) of my insignificant little blog about my life and my kids, and why I love reading and following most of the blogs that I do. Thank you for this!

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102 Erin October 16, 2012 at 7:56 am

Beautifully written, such a wise woman. Quite enjoyable to read and relate to.

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